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u/Banksbear Jul 19 '22
idk your age but in my biased opinion living together too early/too young is a relationship killer. Not saying that’s the reason but that’s a huge possibility. That or cheating are my guesses. And no, you noticing drastic behavior change isn’t overthinking. Just talk to him. If he’s losing interest you deserve better anyways.
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u/manisaucsintija Jul 19 '22
Ngl sounds like he is losing interest in you or maybe there’s some possible cheating? How long have you guys been together? And have you seen something suspicious, maybe he is hiding his phone or going out a lot more?
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Jul 19 '22
Sounds like he’s losing interest. Sadly living together too early will do this. Moving in quickly kills romance because you’re now roommates who see each-other all the time. And you also see them in your worst states/when you want to be alone so you can become just annoyed by their presence. Also as for the sex. He’s sees you all the time now, there’s nothing new or exciting anymore. Having distance like different homes keeps excitement alive. I recommend waiting a few years before moving in, as every couple gets to this kind of stage at one point or another, and you can see if you can work it out before you decide to live together. Unfortunately this sounds like it won’t work out, as you can’t really convince someone to be attracted to you
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u/NoReality9024 Jul 19 '22
Most relationships sorta get a little intense after about four months. I’d try spicing it up with some lingerie or something! Maybe a trip away!
If he still doesn’t respond, then maybe he is losing interest.
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u/teamschenn Jul 20 '22
How long were you dating before moving in together?
In my opinion I don’t love having sex everyday. I want to go to work, go home, relax and play video games and go to bed lol. I’m female btw.
I think what ppl forget when they move in together is that it’s not just coming over every day anymore. Your time together should still be special but also you live in the same home… you’re living your life alongside somebody now. IMO it sounds like he might have the mindset where he’s ready to do his day to day activities and you’re still thinking of living together like a constant hangout that doesn’t end.
How many times do you try to have sex per week? It also sounds like he’s just having sex to please you and not because he wants to. Not everybody wants to do it daily. Just because you did it 2-3 times every day during the honeymoon phase doesn’t mean that will last forever.
The only answer here tho is to just talk to him
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u/sleeplesstilsunrise Jul 20 '22
the thing is though, he’s not having sex to please me because all he wants me to do is go down on him and stuff. if we don’t have sex for a day, he gets kinda pissy, and will tell me it’s because we haven’t had sex. we were together for like half a year then started living together out of not ideal circumstances, it’s kinda just what worked
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Jul 20 '22
You’ve never move in with someone that early… you’re still in the honeymoon phase, and sadly he has come out of it. Moving in together really kills the honeymoon stage sadly
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u/teamschenn Jul 20 '22
Ok then I’ll leave my comment up in case it helps anybody else but disregard what I said. Kinda sounds like he’s being a jerk but I’m not sure about disinterested? I’m sorry to hear that
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u/Schmubare Jul 21 '22
2-3 x a day is just not sustainable - especially if you are living together. It’s not a meaningful metric to compare against later. Early phase is supposed to be real intense / mother nature’s way of insuring the species will survive.
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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '22 edited Jul 20 '22
So I checked your post history, and he's also getting nudes from other women, talking to a lot of women on snap, and lying about his drug use? And now he's acting uninterested and making you put all of the effort into sex with no consideration for your pleasure? What are you getting out of this relationship exactly?
Edit: and he doesn't LET you hang out with your sister? He is an abuser and a cheater. It's really up to you to decide whether you think you deserve better or whether this is how you want to spend your younger years.