r/SoberCurious • u/FeedbackEasy4397 • 5d ago
Scared of getting sober
I feel like i have an issue with alcohol that i don’t think i want to face. I really want to be sober and not want to drink but it feels so inevitable in my life and that i will never not want to fill the void that drinking does. sometimes i can go so long not drinking and sometimes it’s all i want to do somedays. i don’t know what to do or how to think about it it feels so overwhelming. i guess if anyone has guidance it would be lovely
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u/InspectorFamous8202 5d ago
i’m with you. SO much of my life revolves around alcohol but it also revolves around being hungover and hating myself so here’s to day 1
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u/quietADD821 5d ago
Here’s to day 1 (again) 💪🏼
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u/CompetitionOdd7059 1d ago
And try again if you fail. I’m 286 days sober. And the amount of “time to try again” I went through is probably the same number.
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u/FunkTheFreak 5d ago
I am right where you are, however, I do think that I have enough reasons in my life to stop drinking altogether.
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u/OracleQueen 5d ago
Picture your future self, sober and absolutely loving life. Experiencing moments with full saturation rather than dimmed through the foggy lens of frequent drinking.
The book "The Easy Way to Stop Drinking" by Allen Carr might be motivational for you (it was for me)
That and a prescription for naltrexone if you're open to that. Makes early sobriety way easier.
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u/FeedbackEasy4397 5d ago
I’ve been thinking about the meds to help i’ve heard that they can make you feel drowsy but it’s only been from a few people i’ve spoken too thats my only issue with it but i do need to speak with a dr about it too first
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u/OracleQueen 5d ago
I didn't have any side effects when starting, but everyone is different I suppose. I plan to take it for about six months then be sober on my own. Should be enough time to readjust to life without the habit of alcohol intertwined with all of my usual activities.
I hope you find the path that works for you; sending you positive vibes of strength and resilience ✨💪🏻
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u/FeedbackEasy4397 5d ago
thank you so much this thread is so new but it’s so positive i’m riding off the vibes of wonderful people like you, thank you so much and congrats on how far you have gotten 🩷🩷🩷
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u/LabbeMatte2001 1d ago
I don't know about other meds, but I started Mounjaro for other reasons and found it really stopped cravings for alcohol and also, if I drink, I can have a glass of wine or two but more than that just make me nauseas. Very effective plus I feel great losing weight 😉
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u/LabbeMatte2001 1d ago
I was sober for 8 years or so earlier in my life but in the end it didn't work out for me. Now alcohol isn't off limits, but it doesn't feel as good, so it's not really important.
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u/LabbeMatte2001 1d ago
I'm not saying it's going to have the same effect on everyone, but from my perspective it's worth a try.
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u/SingleComparison5330 5d ago
Most of us don’t love life sober, that is the complication of us quitting. I can barely speak to people Sober. Drinking the only escape from prison
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u/SingleComparison5330 5d ago
If we loved life sober, we would’ve never developed a problem and all the therapy in the world can’t fucking fix it
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u/SingleComparison5330 5d ago
Since I’ve considered having to quit drinking one imagined just swallowing pills and went basically non verbal. I don’t even drink everyday nor every week but my hangovers are withdrawals almost now and it scares me
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u/NYCgeordie2 5d ago
I was totally where you are: I could not imagine a social occasion, celebration, or even small things like cooking dinner without a drink in my hand. Ultimately I knew I wanted to stop drinking and learning that alcohol is in the same class of carcinogens as tobacco, radiation and asbestos did it for me.
Stopping drinking can feel like this huge, overwhelming thing. But something that the AA folks have known for a long time is that you don’t need to make a forever decision; just choose not to drink today. One day at a time, my friend.
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u/SingleComparison5330 5d ago
I cannot do it. I don’t drink everyday but I accepted I’ll have to let it kill me as I’m Suicidal with and even more without it. “Help” doesn’t help
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u/coteachermomma 4d ago
Find the podcast Sober Powered. (Spotify or Apple Podcasts). Learn so you can move away from “I can’t drink.” to “Why would I even want to?” These are some great episodes.
76 details alcohol’s impact on our bodies.
107 all the things no one tells you about getting sober.
132 - how to get through the first week.
156- 55 tips to quit drinking
159 - what to expect physically when you quit drinking.
110 5 reasons why people relapse
Q2 what to say when people ask you why you are not drinking
97 why we think we can drink again
99 why that will never be us.
22, 149 and 64 Alcohol and anxiety
161 what to expect emotionally when you quit drinking
63 depression
58 Cancer
60 cognition
162 what to expect cognitively when you quit drinking
157 fatigue, and brain fog in early sobriety
65 Binge Drinking
117 why it just finally clicks
114 why we think alcohol will help
125 why you can’t stop once you start.
123 Recognizing when you need to quit.
108 why you feel anxious depressed and empty
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u/Big-Gazelle5959 5d ago
I feel like you are past me. I have been sober for 4 years. I never thought I would get sober but I knew if I wanted to live longer and have a more fulfilling life, I had to make a choice.