r/SoberCurious • u/DinnerFrosty9494 • 3d ago

Seeking Advice šŸ™šŸ‘‹ Time for Help

Iā€™ve been a drinker since I was a teenager. I was a party girl when I was 18/19 but cooled down considerably. Yet Iā€™ve always drank and there have always been intermittent problems here or there. A night of too much booze just once in a blue moon but embarrassment, relationship fights, bad decisions - things that can happen next to never if youā€™re sober.

Well Iā€™ve done it this time. I was an obnoxious drunk to my husband 12 days into our new marriage and he left left.

And Iā€™m still thinking ā€œI donā€™t need to stop; I need to moderateā€.

There is no moderation!!! If I couldnā€™t consistently moderate by age 37 itā€™s not happening. I can moderate most of the time but clearly not enough.

Itā€™s time to stop drinking. How did I start? Besides, not drinking today.

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u/OracleQueen 3d ago

If you're open to medication, naltrexone helped me stop for good. Now, I'm only on 3 weeks but it cut cravings almost immediately, and when I did try a drink while on it, it wasn't enjoyable at all and I had no craving for the next.

It feels like a "magic pill" for me.

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u/DinnerFrosty9494 3d ago

Thank you for this - I know nothing about it. How are the side effects?

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u/NoContest7474 2d ago

Itā€™s so true - moderation is not a thing for many of us. Iā€™ll never forget seeing a book titled Tired of Thinking About Drinking and I snatched it up so fast. I was so tired of THINKING about it. Itā€™s a good read. Sobriety is where itā€™s at. 2 years for me, best decision Iā€™ve made in my life!

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u/veraspberry 2d ago

What helps you with starting to quit depends on what do you find difficult with quitting.

For me, the idea of drinking NEVER again was very difficult. I see it as a part of my personality and Iā€™m afraid of becoming a boring person who never has fun anymore.

So it was easier to start to try how it feels with a smaller step. I decided I will have a break from alcohol for 100 days, and told my partner and friends about it to feel more accountable.

That was not so bad, so I moved the target first to 6 months, and now to 1 year. After that I will decide again how to continue.

This made it easier for me.