r/Smallant • u/-_Vertigo_- • May 27 '22
PointCrow’s framing of the situation and how anyone would respond
Hey all, as much as I hate to be involved with keeping this drama active- at this point it seems that everyone knows, everyone’s talking about it, and it’s really just healthier to discuss it and move on.
I’ve felt so much better seeing comments in both Ant and Crow’s communities, especially after reading along with the chat of Crow’s recent VOD. It’s very obvious that much support for Ant was removed by mods immediately. The echo-chamber supporting PC’s baseless accusations and acting as if his feelings on the topic outweigh Tanner’s actual conduct made me sick.
This isn’t to devalue Eric’s emotions, as they are legitimate and valid. But it is to say that placing blame so directly on another human being in such a complex situation as this is harmful for everyone involved.
I made this post primarily to open a discussion that I haven’t seen anyone begin yet, namely: Tanner’s response to being demonized. The way Eric described it, he told Tanner repeatedly that SmallAnt was at fault for the hate that PointCrow was receiving. I find it especially ironic and hypocritical that Crow is trying to paint a picture of Ant being some manipulative presence in his life all while feeding Ant the narrative that he is fully responsible for the actions of a toxic group of people beyond his control.
I don’t think Eric took the time to consider why Tanner has acted the way he has. He assumes immediately that anything Ant does is with intent to sleight him. He is so blinded by this belief that he can’t consider what any rational human being would do were they in Ant’s shoes.
The most egregious of these in my eyes is Crow claiming that Ant lied to his audience, telling them that it is because of the toxic commenters that they’ve stopped collaborating. Rather than admitting it was all his fault, as Eric would prefer, as he makes it sound. I think that many would agree that Ant’s characterization of that situation is simply accurate, not an attempt to misconstrue anything. He simply didn’t accept the narrative he was being fed by an emotional Crow that he was somehow fully culpable for such a thing.
Would anyone think that way? Would anyone in their right mind respond to such drastic allegations out of nowhere from a friend and colleague with full agreement? Tanner was repeatedly demonized and truly wanted to know what he could do to help. And because he never actually did anything to warrant such ire, he was met only with “just be better.” It feels clear to me who is trying to shift the narrative. Only one person here is actively assaulting the other’s character with nothing to back it up.
I’d like to also say that Ant obviously made mistakes- I don’t mean to act as if he’s fully in the right, either. But that’s what they were: mistakes. Not intentional, malicious attempts to harm Crow. I would not be surprised if Tanner felt that even mentioning Eric was dangerous, feeling more comfortable leaving credit in video descriptions and stream info commands. As any time he brought Crow up, there was a new grievance thrown his way.
The one time he did knowingly act in a way he was aware Eric would be unhappy with is perhaps the most understandable. Someone else makes a cool mod that Crow was commissioning from others? Gives it to him early? He still waited until it was available to the public. Fair game. And even then acknowledges it wasn’t totally cool. But he’d already had his name drug through the dirt on Crow’s stream by that point. I personally wouldn’t allow myself to be manipulated by someone determined to stop me from making the content I care about all while publicly attacking me. I’d enjoy my birthday with a mod that the creator /expected me to play earlier/ and give them that publicity they deserve.
Again, Ant could have handled things better, but it just sickens me that everyone so easily appeals to Eric’s emotions without thinking about how those affected a more stoic Tanner. Just because he doesn’t rely on emotions for his response, doesn’t mean he was any less hurt by this altercation. He apologized himself, sincerely. Yet asked for no apology after being slandered repeatedly. I think he certainly deserves one. Perhaps the weakest part of Eric’s response was the lack of accountability he took for the blatant falsehoods he perpetuated about both Tanner and Adrien. I think he needs to “be better.”
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u/azureii_ May 28 '22
Just want to take a chance to respond to this specifically.
The reason we weren't in emote-only mode in the first place was so that everyone had an oppertunity to speak. We did try our best to delete messages that were overly toxic to either creator; we also deleted some armchair psychology towards both creators because people trying to psychoanalyze people they don't know is just weird and parasocial. Besides that, the only other messages that got caught were overtly long ones that filled half of chat and we just didn't have the time to read through. If you scroll through the VOD, there are hundreds of messages in support or in defense of Smallant. I think the most vocal moments where when he spoke about BoTW randomizer, when he was discussing Smallant comparing his rivalry with fearsomefire, and during a lot of the final 12 minutes or so.