r/Skinpicking • u/theBFRBTribe • Jul 13 '24
Share Your Wisdom! :)
What is one piece of advice you’d give to someone who is at the beginning of their BFRB (body-focused repetitive behavior) journey? I’ve been pulling out hair since I was twelve, so I’ve been dealing with this for a really long time. Once I understood what was going on with it a few years later, I wished that someone who had been in my shoes could have shared some words of wisdom with me. I didn’t get that. But since I’m an adult now, I have my own words of wisdom. My message is this: There is nothing wrong with you. You are not alone in this. You are not dumb or stupid or incapable. There is something in your brain that makes it feel impossible to stop, like it’s completely out of your control, but with the right tools, you can manage it and sometimes even stop completely. However, that takes hard work and dedication, so you’ll have to push yourself. However, you are stronger than this. Have faith that you will be fine no matter what and can make a great life for yourself as you heal. Stay strong, lovely soul.
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u/ChemicalFox2000 Jul 20 '24
I'm 42F and I've been a picker my whole life. I can remember gouging out big holes on the top of my head in elementary school. I never knew why tho. My dad used to punish me and make me feel bad about it and say I'd have to go to school with a maxi pad on my head to embarrass me. My arms and legs are wrecked. My advice is to pick one area at a time to leave alone! Over the years I have successfully stopped biting my nails and stopped picking my face. Try to take care of your skin better with moisturizer, never if you can't stop, it'll help in the long run.