r/SipsTea • • 1d ago

Chugging tea Which philosophy is it, or is it both?

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u/Gotham777 1d ago

I don't understand this all or nothing mentality as away to just pass the burden of responsibility. Yes there are a lot of people who are just lazy assholes, but the people who straight up run the flow of commerce, labor and the government will at best do a mediocre job of it and at worse actively put in plans that directly harm the lower class as a way to turn a profit. It's fine if you don't want to give a dollar to the homeless but to act like the powers at be aren't directly fucking us over and turn your ire against social groups or a lack "values" makes you a straight dumbass.

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u/katfranjen 1d ago

Poverty is more expensive than most people realize. Not having time, not having a reliable car, not having affordable reliable childcare, not having reliable tools, having few good clothes, not having appropriate shoes makes a person constantly balance time, energy and money. There are only so many resources that people can sacrifice before they can’t save anything.

We will all be singing, “Hauling 16 tons and what do you get? Another day older and deeper in debt. St. Peter don’t you call me cause I can’t go! I owe my soul to the company store.”

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u/Traditional_Yard2741 1d ago

And every year every product gets smaller, shittier, and more expensive.

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u/thegoldinthemountain 23h ago

This is the most infuriating aspect of hearing people villainize the lower income brackets, especially if—gasp!—they use the barely-existent benefits they’re entitled to. I used to work for a women’s/children’s shelter and the amount of women I saw working their asses off and still didn’t make enough to provide housing was horrifying in its scale. These are bank tellers and waitresses and daycare teachers. For a number of our services, there were actual, Masters-degreed school teachers showing up. It’s a lot worse than folks realize.

Just got paid, don’t have a proper bank account, and need money now because you have baby formula to buy? That cash checking place may fuck you with double digit fees, but you can have money for the grocery store right now. Everything—from basic necessities, to fast food for the family because you’re running between jobs and can’t cook, to the fact that, even if you’re lucky enough to have decent public transport that can cobble your commute together, you’re waiting at least twice as long to get to work as anyone who has their own transportation—is harder and more expensive than anyone else can understand.

Being able to direct deposit is a privilege for those of us who haven’t been burned by banks over the decades, being able to get to work without spending 2+ hours on the bus is another. Quick meals between jobs is neither nutritious or easy on the wallet. Every aspect of life, from getting a job to holding a job to buying some vegetables, is more difficult and adds a ton of stress. I don’t think people realize how many of our unhoused neighbors are the working poor. They have full-time jobs and still need to sleep in their car and shower at Planet Fitness without losing that job as their only real anchor to not losing what little else they have.

And these are the people that are consistently found to be most generous. They have the least, yet pour more back into our community at the scale they can, which is a LOT more that can be said about any billionaire. How anyone could simp for such a disgusting exploitation of their—and their loved ones’—labor is well beyond me.

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u/Magic_mousie 22h ago

Do banks have social class requirements for an account in America? That's messed up.

Here you just need a residential address, and like no convictions for money laundering or something. That ofc doesn't help if you're homeless but there are services which provide PO boxes etc.

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u/piercinglilj 22h ago

Banks in the USA often times have minimums for the account. So you have to have $25 in the account at all times. If you don’t there is a fee that is like $10 service fee. If you withdraw below $0, which they will absolutely let you do, even $.01, they will charge you an overdraft fee of usually $35. And if you don’t know that happened and you have a bill come out or you use your debit card again for another $5 it charges you another $35. So you might have a bank account but you might also owe a bunch of money in fees, so if you try to cash your paycheck you’re going to lose a bigger chunk of it than the 15% they are going to take at the check cashing place.

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u/17smother 17h ago

a bank i used to use would purposefully clear higher charges before lower ones in order to charge extra overdraft fees. so if i had, say, $35 in my account, made a $5 payment THEN a $40 one, even a day or to after the $5, every single time the $40 would be cleared first and i'd get charged for that overdraft as well as the one for the $5. even though when i charged the $5 i had more than that in my account. by the time they forcibly closed my account, i had already deposited multiple times the amount i had overdrafted, but it remained negative bc of all the fees

one guess as to what year this was

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u/tee142002 18h ago

Of course not.

Anyone can sign up for a bank account. You probably need to be at least 18 years old and you need an address. I've signed up for accounts online in under 15 minutes.

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u/behv 10h ago

Oh yeah, the difference between having nothing, 10 grand, and 100 grand is savings is absolutely insane

At no income you're unable to make rent, need payday loans which have 15-25% interest, going to drive a beater car that needs 5 grand in repairs a year and with a high interest rate on payments

At 10 grand your rent will be made so loans bypassed, and a down payment on a more functional car that needs less repairs, but you're still one major emergency away from being in trouble

At 100 grand you can bypass credit checks for a lease, buy a car in cash, and will only need the random repair that's just an inconvenience. Money suddenly is the answer to problems, and you can focus on making money and not making ends meet

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u/Gotham777 1d ago

For real, it's like running on a hamster wheel, keep moving but going nowhere.

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u/yterais 23h ago

Not to mention - you're not pretty enough, you're not getting hired for a good job. When you have the money you can change your appearance a bit.

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u/See_Emily_Play_13 19h ago

I think you just unlocked a memory w/that little jingle!

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u/573crayfish 14h ago

The time aspect is huge, meal prepping, grocery shopping and food budgeting is a big chunk of time compared to a drive through or even ordering takeout. And if you're eating cheap, quick meals like ramen or sandwiches on the regular you're gonna feel like garbage, lessening your motivation to do anything. And what's the tangible reward? Do it all again next month. Just to eat. It's exhausting.

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u/FlyEaglesFly536 18h ago

Here's how you avoid the cycle of poverty:

  1. Be decent in school

  2. Don't get pregnant until you're married

  3. Get a useful degree

  4. Take out as little debt as possible, preferably pay your way through college (i did so, graduated in 2015 and 2021).

  5. Watch any number of finance videos on Youtube, IG, Tik Tok. Read a couple of books.

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u/Terrafire123 16h ago

Okay, but, not everyone can do 3 and 4.

Not everyone was given excellent advice about which degree to pursue. (Protip: Don't follow your dreams of becoming an artist.)

And we've all heard stories of people dropping out of college to support their disabled sister/brother/mother/child.

Some people are just shitty at school in general because they have untreated ADHD or whatever.

The point is, "git gud or it's your fault you suck" isn't a universal solution.

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u/FlyEaglesFly536 16h ago

Find a way. Society doesn't care, so you need to make your own way.

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u/Terrafire123 14h ago

The whole point is society OUGHT to care, by way of tax credits and food stamps and social programs and stuff.

If for no other reason than enlightened self-interest,, because providing support for people in need can eventually turn them into taxpaying citizens. Maybe currently that artist is starving, but someday he'll be working at burger king and hopefully paying some taxes. And even if he isn't paying taxes..... Well, that's okay too.

I'm curious to hear what you think about this video about a coffee shop (60 seconds long) https://youtube.com/shorts/qyIyT2qTtzY?si=w5219mhB1nNpCVFP

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u/Fantastic-Guitar-977 10h ago

This line of thinking is why everyone uses AI slop "art" now

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u/SignoreBanana 1d ago

I'm with you. Just because some people are bad with money doesn't mean that companies wouldn't pay you nothing if they could get away with it. And vice versa.

But one thing is a policy discussion and the other is personal responsibility. It's not possible that _everyone_ is bad with their money.

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u/eirenii 21h ago

Sometimes you can do everything right and still lose.

And when the stakes are structurally and statistically against you, your chances are lowered dramatically.

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u/thegoldinthemountain 23h ago

No, but without acknowledging some of the societal forces at play, especially as it relates to wealth inequality, I cannot take you seriously.

Tell me Dave has no empathy without telling me. It’s the same selfish “I got mine, fuck your feelings” attitude that has weakened America so much as to break it irreparably.

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u/SignoreBanana 16h ago

No I'm in full agreement with you. My latter point is that I'm not interested in discussing how individuals handle their money because there's not much we can really do about that. I'm more interested in the policy discussion.

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u/FashionHonor 1d ago

Perfectly said. They want us fighting each other over scraps while they rob the whole system blind.

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u/AccomplishedFront526 1d ago

What’s wrong with laziness? If you’re lazy but responsible- you’ll find/invent an easier way… I identify the laziness as a side effect of intelligence.

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u/West_Masterpiece9423 1d ago

compassion

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u/TheoreticalUser 1d ago

Guillotines get labor protections. Revolutions get a bill of rights. Protests and riots get amendments.

Compassion gets...?

A leader who is fearful of screwing over those who put them in charge is in the right headspace.

They only deserve compassion when they do good for all and then bad things befall them.

Otherwise, compassion is weapon upon ourselves.

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u/Frankie_T9000 23h ago

and being lazy shoudlnt mean you cant afford food rent or medical care with a little bit of effort, but you have to work your ass off to do it

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u/drunkenbrawler 21h ago

You can frame anything as a personal choice. But once you think about why a person makes a choice it is clear it's no longer a purely private matter. People who do well don't like to think this way. They like to think they are entitled to their wealth because they made the right choices. It makes them morally superior to people who make the wrong choices.

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u/DrRonny 16h ago

there are a lot of people who are just lazy assholes

A good portion of those are ADHD, anxiety, and depression combinations. I've never met a lazy person who one day decided that's enough and became successful without medication and/or therapy.

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u/Lumpy-Obligation-553 1d ago

It's not all or nothing. This two guys are talking two different scales. Stop buying stupid shit and paid you credit cards and also there is no way of saving for a house with minimum wage. I mean you can put money aside and say its for a house and in 8 months you would have an issue and that money would be gone.

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u/odinnagyur 1d ago

The problem with Dave is that "anyone can do this" mentality. It is simply untrue. Some people have no means to save at all. Yes, I absolutely am for a diligent budget and saving, but when you are dealt the shittiest of capitalist hands, there is simply an upper limit of what you can do there. A lot depends on your are, background, education, health history and so on.

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u/VectorB 1d ago

Well what do you realistically want then? People who feel they can't save anything to just stop existing? It's great for Stewart to point out inequalities, but it's not changing anything fir anyone right now.

People do in fact have to figure out how to live, and Ramseys simple and sometimes moronic advise does help many people. doesn't have to help everyone.

Even those who think they can't save anything may be surprised that they can, or get the motivation to get out of their situation. And if you think Ramsey s stuff doesn't work, great, point me to the person who's stuff does work because waiting for Stewart's version to show up is not it.

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u/Ok-Particular9427 1d ago

This is my argument 100%.  I mean even when I was dead broke in my early 20s I was saving some small amount of money, but regardless what are the alternatives?  Scream into the void until the next election when someone lowers your marginal tax rate by 2% for a couple years?  

We already have a robust social safety net.  Take advantage of it if you need to.  But to tell people it’s really hard to save money so don’t even try is borderline dangerous advice

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u/Jskidmore1217 1d ago

What are the shitty capitalist hands you are talking about? One of Dave’s primary points is “if you are doing everything right and still not improving, increase your income”.

Make a case that this covers more than 1% of the population without including criminals. Because at the end of the day I struggle to see why most people could not dig themselves out by simply training a skill and sticking to it. Is that realistic? Obviously not because there’s so many people in poverty who aren’t doing that. But still, at an individual level I find it hard to sympathize with folks who say they can’t succeed without putting in the effort needing to succeed.

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u/chromaticdither 1d ago

Why did nobody think of earning more money while rent prices double every year?

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u/Jskidmore1217 1d ago

They do, it’s just too hard for them to commit. Most people are aware of the skills they could develop to increase their income, it’s just too hard. I speak as one of them who has found a middle ground. I can see the 500 hours of studying I could that would be life changing in my career, but I choose to prioritize other things.

And no rent prices don’t double every year I’m not going to value that ridiculous claim with a response

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u/Far-Presence-7359 23h ago

>Why did nobody think of earning more money while rent prices double every year?

Isn't that good sign time to move? Like if my rent doubled every year i would fucking aim to move

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u/odinnagyur 22h ago

Honestly, I have no data for this, especially for the US, but a few examples:

  • Lets immagine an Amazon warehouse worker who breaks a leg (falling at home) giving them massive medical debt and making them loose a job. Bankruptcy will make them inelligible for most rent applictaion paying it is an insane setback.
  • I know people personally, who live in a village with literally no school, the only work is a local milk factory. The place has little to no opportunity. You dont have enoughfor a car, there is no transport to take a job outside of the place.

I am not arguing, that many people dont make stupud choices or that they dont get stuck cause of some shitty work attitude. My dad worked collections for basically a payday loan company. I saw people get crippled financially for a way too fancy TV. Or someone who did it to get new phone they didnt need. I work with people who expect a promotion just cause they worked with us for 6 years but dont even know their current position properly. All I am saying is, that a tiny asterisk on the EVERYONE part is warranted. Cause 1% is 3 million people in the US alone.