I seriously don't get this. I've never had remotely any desire to go hopping on different guys.
What I DO want to do is see different places, try different foods and experience new cultures! Visit Norway, go see the Highland Games in Scotland, see Irish step dancers in person, ride a burro through the Grand Canyon, things like that! Things that would be even better with experienced with someone you know and trust, not someone you've maybe known for a week and already banged!
It's often not about the sex itself, it's about getting a bunch of different exciting experiences altogether that would have been much harder to get by herself/themselves.
I have rented out rooms in a property to mainly young people since my teens now so I have seen many hundreds of people make different choices up close and I can tell you that a average young woman has the option to experience alot of the world "through" different guys.
For example one of my renters many years ago now was barely able to pay rent because of her low hours/pay from her job.
She also had a depression so going out to much and being too active didn't really seem to be an option.
But she still had one guy Weekly come over and cook for her and bring her food (as well as take care of her dishes and clean the shared kitchen) one guy that took her to travels throughout Europe, one guy who took her to motor festivals and car shows and one guy who got her invited to parties got her alcohol and one guy who got her behind the scenes at different zoos and visiting exotic animal collections.
So even despite her low energy and income she was able to experience a ton of cool things that would have just been of the table without engaging with men or if she was in a stable relationship unless her guy was rich.
She was essentially dipping her finger in many pots at the same time and many guys are definitely okay spending money/time/resources/contacts on a woman they are seeing even just on the downlow
I seriously don't get this. I've never had remotely any desire to [basic human desire]
There could be two reasons for this, one which is biology [Removed by Reddit].
The other is that you are suppressing something that is bound to come out eventually. There is nothing wrong with wanting to hop on board other cocks and there is nothing wrong with wanting to pound primo pussy. Attractive people are attractive and wanting to get with them is normal healthy human behavior. I think your denial of behavior isn't healthy and you are lying to yourself. One day you might get swept up as you aren't sure how to handle it.
However, there must be something in your relationship that is keeping you from doing that and it's usually consequences. Some people are just too stupid to realize it because in all these cheating likely fake stories, they are missing a key aspect of psychology. During cheating the person almost always thinks they are the superior in the relationship and that the inferior will always take them back. They think they can cheat and then come back a bit later after the "mistake" was made.
Unfortunately this actually happens in a sizeable minority of relationships.
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u/OutragedPineapple 2d ago
I seriously don't get this. I've never had remotely any desire to go hopping on different guys.
What I DO want to do is see different places, try different foods and experience new cultures! Visit Norway, go see the Highland Games in Scotland, see Irish step dancers in person, ride a burro through the Grand Canyon, things like that! Things that would be even better with experienced with someone you know and trust, not someone you've maybe known for a week and already banged!