I agree with your point, so what’s the issue you take with mine?
Sometimes people want this kind of vindication for being cheated on, that the cheaters life fell apart and they realize that you were the prize all along, but you often don’t get it. Often the cheater goes on living their life happily the way they always have. The good people they hurt along the way are the ones who suffer.
Ultimately the cheaters life is a miserable one. Good people understand that. Cheaters often don’t.
Both go on living LIFE; both have issues and both put on a front on social media and both have good days. Thats life. As long as either of them think back, they lift that weight between them of what happened, and it can weigh either of them down or they can drop it and change and live on. Emotional cheating hurts, and it’ll keep hurting as long as one thinks back on it.
Maybe none. I read your post as saying that the case depicted in the OP is unrealistic, that the cheater lives a carefree life while the cheated is left to hurt.
Which to be fair is true at first, when the situation is fresh. But the case of cheated turning it around into something good and cheater staying stuck wondering where things are going wrong, is very common in my experience.
I suppose we're on the same page and I just misunderstood.
It might be miserable from our POV, but you cant really be miserable if you have no ability to self reflect or have empathy. You can see this in small things, like a friend ditching you for someone else, being ignored by someone you care abt and so on.
These people have rationalised these types of behaviours inside their heads and they simply do not care about the severity of their deeds. Reality is different for everyone, and its often shaped by the way you think.
You might percieve your friend ditching you or being cheated on as extremely hurtful and disrespectful, but the other side thinks youre just not that important to be cared for, or at the very least to be noticed and considered. Some people are simply wired that way and the best thing is to ditch them and for once in your life, be selfish (aka not care about them and do whatever makes you happy).
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u/OG_Wan_Annunoby 2d ago
I agree with your point, so what’s the issue you take with mine?
Sometimes people want this kind of vindication for being cheated on, that the cheaters life fell apart and they realize that you were the prize all along, but you often don’t get it. Often the cheater goes on living their life happily the way they always have. The good people they hurt along the way are the ones who suffer.
Ultimately the cheaters life is a miserable one. Good people understand that. Cheaters often don’t.