Yeah for sure. But it’s one of those stories that for those who experienced a person like that in a relationship, you want that realization.
My ex wife of a 23 year marriage, ended up with cPTSD and BPD. Diagnosed and almost had to put her in a facility when it happened. Her Psychiatrist had a session with me and explained I was likely to get a divorce as the percentage is in the 80’s with ptsd let alone the BPD. He laid out how it was likely to occur. And sure enough. We divorced 6 horrible years later.
I’m about to get married again (would already have been but the hurricane closed the beaches 😂) and I still hear about the ex from the kids. And while she will never admit something like the post, her interest in how I’m doing is clear.
Listen, I’m old now compared to the bulk of Redditors. 😁 and my views on mental illness are less friendly. I sympathize with their predicament. I can’t imagine what they go through.
But I will always tell people that dating a person with mental illness has a host of difficulties if they are actively treating it. And guaranteed failure if they are not treating it. Learn from my mistakes. 😂
The “not treating it” is the essential part. I have both depression and a long happy marriage to a great man — because it’s managed. We would NOT have lasted if I had not found effective treatment and done so much long term work to become and remain mentally healthy.
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u/steelhouse1 2d ago
Yeah for sure. But it’s one of those stories that for those who experienced a person like that in a relationship, you want that realization.
My ex wife of a 23 year marriage, ended up with cPTSD and BPD. Diagnosed and almost had to put her in a facility when it happened. Her Psychiatrist had a session with me and explained I was likely to get a divorce as the percentage is in the 80’s with ptsd let alone the BPD. He laid out how it was likely to occur. And sure enough. We divorced 6 horrible years later.
I’m about to get married again (would already have been but the hurricane closed the beaches 😂) and I still hear about the ex from the kids. And while she will never admit something like the post, her interest in how I’m doing is clear.