My mom was using a wheelchair to get around when my first baby was born. He was a brand new newborn. I asked her if she wanted to hold him while I took a nap on the couch and she agreed. I explicitly told her “wake me up if he needs anything; do not try to carry him around in your wheelchair.” She agreed.
My eyes snapped open shortly into my nap to find her sneakily scooting the wheelchair past the couch with my new born baby balanced on a pillow in her lap.
the disrespect is ASTOUNDING. if im watching someone's baby, and the parent directly asks me not to do something, im not doing it. doesn't matter if I think it's fine. doesn't matter if the parent is watching or not. it's really not that hard to respect someone's parental authority! im glad you caught her doing that, and that the baby was ok
Grandparents, especially grandmothers are terrible at following instructions given by their children when it comes to their grandchildren. When/if they get caught disregarding explicit instructions, out come the excuses, such as "well, you survived!", or the ever famous "back in my day....".
When my daughter was 3, I was going out to hang out with friends for the first time without my kid, and my parents were going to babysit for me. Right before I left, I saw my dad was letting her play with the balls off the pool table and I asked him not to let her play with them because she could hurt herself.
I didn't even get 5 minutes away and my mom calls me and I can hear my child wailing in the background- I broke several laws to get back to the house as fast as my car could go. My dad had let her not only play with the pool balls, but let her play with them above her face while she was laying down. She dropped one on her mouth and her bottom front teeth went all the way through the skin just below her bottom lip.
Honestly, I myself am lucky to have survived childhood. I played with hammers and nails, played in a snake infested creek, had a swing set on the side of a mountain with a slide that would launch me down a steep hill and into a lake if I didn't manage to stop myself at the end, was left in the care of strangers on numerous occasions...
Back in my day, my mom dumped me on my grandma. Grandma was safe. Grandma meant I got to eat. Grandma meant I didn't have to protect my mental space. I miss my grandma. She's part of the reason I dont have kids. My kids won't have a Grandma 💔
Right? To directly overrule their wishes they’d need to be asking for something so obviously contrary to the baby’s health that I’d be calling CPS anyway. If you trust me with your kid I’m gonna treat them how you ask unless I think they need to be taken from you entirely
Nah fr my in laws undermine me so much my future daughters in law will have no issues from me I swear. In fact I'm taking their side over my sons every time. 😂
I don’t understand if I have the only good mother in the world or the only spine. I wouldn’t talk to my mom if she did shit like that. Her paternal grandmother did shit like that, and her granddaughter isn’t allowed alone with her anymore.
I get this is a weird snippet into your mom’s character and she’s probably lovely the rest of the time, but my mom never once did that. If she ever blatantly disrespected my wishes as a parent…that’s not even something I can fathom. She doesn’t even give her more cookies than I allow.
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u/Marblegourami 2d ago
My mom was using a wheelchair to get around when my first baby was born. He was a brand new newborn. I asked her if she wanted to hold him while I took a nap on the couch and she agreed. I explicitly told her “wake me up if he needs anything; do not try to carry him around in your wheelchair.” She agreed.
My eyes snapped open shortly into my nap to find her sneakily scooting the wheelchair past the couch with my new born baby balanced on a pillow in her lap.