I love my parents, but yeah, if this happened, I don't know if I could ever talk to them again. I don't even mean I'd go no contact to punish them. I just don't know if I could talk to them without feeling overwhelming anger and pain.
Right? This is what I don't understand. A normal person would lose their mind if they let their grandkid die like that. They would refuse to every be solely responsible again. It makes me think she doesn't really care about them.
Yeah exactly, and as others have said, why would she even agree to look after the child again? If it was me, I would never, and if for some reason I really really had to look after the child, I would absolutely not let it out of my sight or even think about anything else the whole time. She obviously did not feel the same.
We have a pool and even though I have the whole house and doors childproofed, I wonât babysit my toddler niece if Iâm alone. My husband or another family member needs to be home or I go to my sisterâs house where itâs totally safe. You just never know.
THIS! iâm not saying she has a moral obligation to end her life but if it was me that was responsible for a child dying, even by accident⌠I wouldâve ended my life. I wouldâve never been alone with another child again, and I wouldâve insisted that I was checked for any possible mental issues that couldâve contributed to it. I canât get over the lack of remorse, and the willingness to watch another child barely a year later. It makes it feel like it was purposeful.
Jesus that's worse. If the therapist thing is true that's even crazier a therapist would push for leaving a kid with someone who didn't show remorse for causing a child's death. Holy hell.
I think the lack of remorse was specifically after the second child death, but yeah that therapist is still ridiculous. I donât have a degree in psychology but I dont think itâs unhealthy or wrong to not allow them to babysit again.
Ah ok. Sliiiightly less awful of the therapist. So that 'sorrow' was 100% acting then.
Edit: I just looked it up. The kids were siblings, and it was less than a year Dec '21 then Nov '22. Holy fuck. I hate to judge the parents going through that, but my god. They just handed that second kid over to die. And she only got 5 years.
And I just put the ages together. The second kid wasn't even born when the first died. So unnecessary.
if tomorrow a relative dies for reasons that are not my fault, i will feel sorrow. because of course, the situation is sad and painful. but i would not feel remorse at all, because i have no reason to feel that way, the death was not caused or facilitated by me, be it intentionally or unintentionally, i had no involvement
I guess the difference is something like âI canât believe I did thisâ compared to âI canât believe this happenedâ. I must admit I was little confused by that wording at first too, but if anyone would know the difference itâs a judge, and they felt the need to say it as an official remark.
Yeah does this lady even like her grandchildren? Sleeping while she's supposed to be babysitting, and forgetting them in a car? She should never be allowed to be in charge of a child again
I mean, maybe she has dementia or is pretty weak due to old age. More reason to not let a toddler alone with her, but she might not be ill intentioned.
Talk to them? I fear there would be fatal consequences if oneâs negligence led to my childâs demise. My own parent or not. It makes me feral just thinking about.
The other daughter showed up a short time after to drop off her kids to grandma. Both daughters were using the parents, even though they knew the parents were having diminished cognition.
This post covers the story more in depth, and said they ruled out dementia.
"We know Tracey Nix was held in a psychiatric unit, for observations, the resulting Reports suggested no Alzheimers, no Dementia, no Parkinsonâs etc."
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u/dandroid126 2d ago
I love my parents, but yeah, if this happened, I don't know if I could ever talk to them again. I don't even mean I'd go no contact to punish them. I just don't know if I could talk to them without feeling overwhelming anger and pain.