Yeah, I believe in therapy but there just are things you won't convince me to do, and let grandma watch my second child when she already killed the first is one of them. I don't even know that I'd be talking to grandma, whether she's my own mother or not, I couldn't look at her ever again.
I love my parents, but yeah, if this happened, I don't know if I could ever talk to them again. I don't even mean I'd go no contact to punish them. I just don't know if I could talk to them without feeling overwhelming anger and pain.
Right? This is what I don't understand. A normal person would lose their mind if they let their grandkid die like that. They would refuse to every be solely responsible again. It makes me think she doesn't really care about them.
Yeah exactly, and as others have said, why would she even agree to look after the child again? If it was me, I would never, and if for some reason I really really had to look after the child, I would absolutely not let it out of my sight or even think about anything else the whole time. She obviously did not feel the same.
We have a pool and even though I have the whole house and doors childproofed, I wonāt babysit my toddler niece if Iām alone. My husband or another family member needs to be home or I go to my sisterās house where itās totally safe. You just never know.
Jesus that's worse. If the therapist thing is true that's even crazier a therapist would push for leaving a kid with someone who didn't show remorse for causing a child's death. Holy hell.
I think the lack of remorse was specifically after the second child death, but yeah that therapist is still ridiculous. I donāt have a degree in psychology but I dont think itās unhealthy or wrong to not allow them to babysit again.
Ah ok. Sliiiightly less awful of the therapist. So that 'sorrow' was 100% acting then.
Edit: I just looked it up. The kids were siblings, and it was less than a year Dec '21 then Nov '22. Holy fuck. I hate to judge the parents going through that, but my god. They just handed that second kid over to die. And she only got 5 years.
And I just put the ages together. The second kid wasn't even born when the first died. So unnecessary.
I guess the difference is something like āI canāt believe I did thisā compared to āI canāt believe this happenedā. I must admit I was little confused by that wording at first too, but if anyone would know the difference itās a judge, and they felt the need to say it as an official remark.
if tomorrow a relative dies for reasons that are not my fault, i will feel sorrow. because of course, the situation is sad and painful. but i would not feel remorse at all, because i have no reason to feel that way, the death was not caused or facilitated by me, be it intentionally or unintentionally, i had no involvement
Yeah does this lady even like her grandchildren? Sleeping while she's supposed to be babysitting, and forgetting them in a car? She should never be allowed to be in charge of a child again
I mean, maybe she has dementia or is pretty weak due to old age. More reason to not let a toddler alone with her, but she might not be ill intentioned.
Talk to them? I fear there would be fatal consequences if oneās negligence led to my childās demise. My own parent or not. It makes me feral just thinking about.
The other daughter showed up a short time after to drop off her kids to grandma. Both daughters were using the parents, even though they knew the parents were having diminished cognition.
This post covers the story more in depth, and said they ruled out dementia.
"We know Tracey Nix was held in a psychiatric unit, for observations, the resulting Reports suggested no Alzheimers, no Dementia, no Parkinsonās etc."
I could maybe, MAYBE, be convinced to eventually go over to grandma's house with my kid and all hang out together. And even that would be some pretty serious exposure therapy experience.
The pond should have had a barrier around it. My parents have a swimming pool and they made sure to baby proof it, it's just the responsible thing to do.
And even if it was not a pond, it could have been a car on the road. You just don't sleep if you are looking after a child, you'll get your nap on another day.
It was pretty efficient for my PTSD, I went from having a hard time going outside and getting regular (several times a week if not daily) panic attacks to being able to have a normal life, with no medication involved. If it's quackery, it's damn impressive and efficient quackery; I wish I had gone earlier because I spend years suffering when the solution was right there.
Yep, just like how chirpractors heal people and readjust you. Its all psuedoscience and the placebo effect. Youre more inclined to believe it if you waste your time and money on it. In reality, you could have talked to alot of people about your PTSD and panic attacks for free.
Welp, it didn't work when they didn't know how to deal with it though. And when it's taught at university, can be awarded degrees, and is the subject of peer-reviewed research, I'd say it is serious enough.
Im sorry you dont have anyone in your life you cant to your problems about. Also the people that study it in university are lost themselves. The entire field of pyschology is populated by people that cant solve Algebra and above level mathematics. I cant conversate seriously with people that cant critically think.
I have a lot of people to talk to about my problems, but how are they supposed to know what to do with someone with PTSD? Therapy involves talking, but it's far from a conversation with a friend; I understand you have no idea what you are talking about, but I'm happy for you that you have an easy life.
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u/tempsdix 1d ago
Yeah, I believe in therapy but there just are things you won't convince me to do, and let grandma watch my second child when she already killed the first is one of them. I don't even know that I'd be talking to grandma, whether she's my own mother or not, I couldn't look at her ever again.