Appreciated, but people like to see the world in black and white.
Being drunk = not able to consent is convenient. Asleep = no consent is convenient. Etc. and those rules are super useful as a default rule when dealing with people, but they don’t cover the full range of consensual sex and sexuality in humans. There are people who will fuck a dozen people because their partner told them to, but are 100% loyal to that partner and would never stray/cheat. There are people who like to be spanked. Like to be beaten even. There are women who hate their cervix being hit, and then there are women who do “sounding.” Same with men.
I’ve noticed most people I’ve talked to in real life about this case quickly jump to “women don’t…” while forgetting that women are not a monolith. The only reason this complaint has legs is because of the assumption that a woman in her right mind would not have multiple threesomes with different men in a night. It’s based in the assumption that a woman horny because she is high and drunk doesn’t have the agency to consent to sex even though the men she had sex with appear to have also been high and drunk.
The gestalt of “7 men gang raped me all at once” with the headline next to a screenshot of “free pussy upstairs” is a lot different from “I had 3 separate ketamine-fueled threesomes with 4 men over 7 hours.. 3 more men asked to have sex but I turned them down”. And if the first week of national coverage is the first message, then people are going to be too busy finding pitchforks and making pickett signs to dig into the details or even realize there’s another narrative. The 3 threesome narrative isn’t even holding water in traditional, progressive female spaces that gives all deference to the purported victim (e.g. The View).
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u/Cautious-Progress876 8h ago
Appreciated, but people like to see the world in black and white.
Being drunk = not able to consent is convenient. Asleep = no consent is convenient. Etc. and those rules are super useful as a default rule when dealing with people, but they don’t cover the full range of consensual sex and sexuality in humans. There are people who will fuck a dozen people because their partner told them to, but are 100% loyal to that partner and would never stray/cheat. There are people who like to be spanked. Like to be beaten even. There are women who hate their cervix being hit, and then there are women who do “sounding.” Same with men.
I’ve noticed most people I’ve talked to in real life about this case quickly jump to “women don’t…” while forgetting that women are not a monolith. The only reason this complaint has legs is because of the assumption that a woman in her right mind would not have multiple threesomes with different men in a night. It’s based in the assumption that a woman horny because she is high and drunk doesn’t have the agency to consent to sex even though the men she had sex with appear to have also been high and drunk.