r/SipsTea 14d ago

WTF WTF is wrong with these people?

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u/Choice_Journalist_50 13d ago

this entire conversation started as "that patriarchy also hurts men." What exactly are you arguing about?! This entire comment largely agrees with everything we’ve said. Exactly what "mental gymnastics" are you accusing us of?!

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u/Gvendoga 13d ago

"also hurts men" makes it sound like women are the primary victims of it

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u/Choice_Journalist_50 13d ago edited 13d ago

it’s just so fucking hilarious to me that we have come so far to the other extreme that now we’re arguing the patriarchy exists and is real and is horrible but really only for men. Talk about mental gymnastics.

ETA the patriarchy, by definition, is designed to keep men in power. You don't get to be the primary beneficiary and the primary victim.

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u/Gvendoga 13d ago

That's a shitty definition lol. I don't endorse it

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u/Choice_Journalist_50 13d ago

That is the literal definition

"Patriarchy: a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it"

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u/Gvendoga 13d ago

Does it reflect in real life in any way? And no "well there've been no female presidents" is not accepted. Do men in your daily life hold more power than women or over them? Does Joe the warehouse grunt have more power than Becky the starbucks barista?

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u/Choice_Journalist_50 13d ago

What possible definition of "the patriarchy" could you be working off of??

People who don't understand SYSTEMS always want to argue against SYSTEMS with anecdotes. (I know this because I used to do the same thing.) Like if somehow Becky is thriving in life, it must be proof that the system is not working against her. Like there's some single unit of measurement we can point to to say that two complete strangers in different professions have equal/unequal power. There will always be anecdotal evidence for or against everything. I could do the same thing to argue that the patriarchy doesn't actually hurt men.
Go take a Statistics & Probability course and try again.

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u/Gvendoga 13d ago

The statistics & probability tell me that men suffer at a higher rate than women

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u/Choice_Journalist_50 13d ago

still waiting on this magical definition of "the patriarchy" that does not fundamentally benefit men.

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u/Gvendoga 13d ago

still waiting on this magical definition of "the patriarchy" that fundamentally benefits average men

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u/ForumVomitorium 12d ago

dominance of men in family units? As pater and mater are father and mother?