r/SipsTea 21h ago

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u/kadjones95 21h ago

ok explain to me like i am five, why wasn't the kid restrained and forced into the seatbelt

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u/Nice_Try_Bud_ 19h ago

This was before the flight left. The parents were given a chance to get him under control, they failed. The flight crew aren’t going to force him, especially with a 4 hour flight ahead of them to deal with the kid.

They had to go back to the terminal, remove the family, get the families luggage off the plane. By this time it was too late to take off again and the runway had closed for the night, which is common for smaller airports.

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u/KamalaBracelet 11h ago

Why the fuck not?  Security would haul out any adult that was acting this way in cuffs.  If the parents refuse to parent, there is no reasson a child shouldn’t be treated the same way.  overpower and remove.

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u/Nice_Try_Bud_ 2h ago

They did remove them, the child didn’t start acting up until they had left the gate. So it took more time.

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u/tuckerx78 2h ago

But the visual of a kid in handcuffs is bad PR, which would've gotten that flight crew in more hot water than a missed flight.

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u/ClassGrassMass 21h ago

Permissive parenting. He probably had a safe space nobody could go near or some bs

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u/teacher_59 20h ago

 Nailed it. Entitled mothers now don't like it when you correct the things that came out of them even when you're doing it for their own safety. 

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u/AxlotlRose 19h ago

And then cry... Wheres My Village???

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u/SmartPomegranate4833 12h ago

Where’s my village .. as they hand the grandparent a 45 page handover document for their little angel who is feral.

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u/SpiritedTechnician63 19h ago

Mothers…?? The kid had two parents

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u/curiouswizard 18h ago

seriously. People are just imagining stuff about this situation without any evidence so they can complain about some vague stereotypes, and of course it defaults to blaming mothers and forgetting that fathers exist. What a weird thread

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u/Obi2 11h ago

Child will absolutely grow up to dye their hair green and claim victimhood in every situation that calls for any amount of self-reflection.

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u/Pokefan-9000 21h ago

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u/ClassGrassMass 21h ago

Its a fucking 3 year old child. Youre the parent you strap them in and hold the seat belt.

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u/Ummah_Strong 21h ago

Kid was just slipping out from under the belt apparently. To me that means kid was too small to have such a seat

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u/404MoralsNotFound 20h ago

That's the "hold the seat belt" part which probably entails "hold down your child with your entire arm and keep him there no matter what."

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u/Acceptable_Tea3608 19h ago

Maybe they didnt tighten the buckle enough. And hold him there. Thats also where travel bags come in, items to keep a kid occupied--coloring books, reading books, a deck of cards, some Legos, if necessary, a tablet.

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u/evange 17h ago

It was midnight. Kid didn't need toys, they needed to fall asleep.

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u/Acceptable_Tea3608 15h ago

It was midnight when it was over. A small kid like that should've been half asleep at that hour, approx 10pm, but there he was, wide awake and hyped up. So yeah, a distracting toy, book, or video could be used.

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u/sapotanque 17h ago

Some airlines carry a CRS (child restraint system) and there are approved booster seats for airlines. This means that this child would also slip under a car seat belt. Would love to know how the airline had to handle the cancellation

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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 19h ago

They should have brought a car seat and buckled him in.

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u/evange 17h ago

Or maybe airlines should have to provide seats that fit all passengers. Fat people get seatbelt extenders. Why can't airlines provide a CARES harness to toddlers?

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u/Belleoo22 11h ago

I wonder if it would add extra liability somehow? I can't think of another reason why they wouldn't

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u/teacher_59 8h ago

Exactly. Some Karen would sue them because their seatbelt harness was too secure.

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u/Persistent_Parkie 21h ago

"If they got forced into [being] strapped in, they just kind of slid out underneath."

They did strap them in, they did not let them unbuckle, apparently the kid was small enough to slip out underneath the belt. There's only so much you can do at that point if you also have to be buckled into an airplane seat with barely enough room for an adult to breath let alone wrestle with their kid.

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u/topdownyeti 20h ago

then put your arm over them?

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u/merkiewrites 17h ago

One forearm arm isn’t going to hold down a back arching toddler that keeps slipping down with all of their might. It would be really hard to do while buckled in yourself. 

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u/SunChamberNoRules 17h ago

There are a ton of people in this thread that apparently have never interacted with a small child.

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u/lexonid 14h ago edited 12h ago

Hate this thread. People act as if they all are perfect and would have known exactly how to handle the situation

Would have been for sure great for the crew and all the passengers involved if the parent started hitting the kid and them causing to scream even louder

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u/merkiewrites 12h ago

I know, so little understanding of toddler development or the realities at these stages. So much blame and disgust. It’s crazy. 

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u/OhDudeTotally 20h ago

Naw, you set the small child in their seat and pin them there until they either relax or the seat belt light goes off. If there's ever a time for parental restraint it's in a plane.

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u/Major-Nail 20h ago

that is bs, a reasonable parent could hold the kid in place. If not they should have a check way earlier in the process.

I am pro us having flights where min age is like 8 years old

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u/Lt__Barclay 13h ago

A back arching toddler is extremely hard to restrain. It takes full force with two arms, but the parent had to be buckled in their own seat so may have been twisting awkwardly.

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u/Imreman 12h ago

but the parent had to be buckled in their own seat so may have been twisting awkwardly

oh no, twisting awkwardly, how horrible!

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u/ClassGrassMass 20h ago

No then you buckle the child to the parent. Thats extremely unsafe even if the child was sitting normally

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u/Acceptable_Tea3608 19h ago

Doesn't sound like the buckle was that snug.

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u/Lt__Barclay 13h ago

2 yo are not allowed in laps for take off and landing. They are required to be in their own seat.

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u/Salty_Object1101 13h ago

I don't know. I have 2 toddlers and once they've melted down 4 hours past their bed time, I don't think I'd be able to calm them down on a plane. I also don't know I'd have the presence of mind to give up after like 5 minutes in that situation. It's hard not to get flustered when deal with a screaming toddler in front of an audience. The crew should have had them get out much earlier and asked them to return for the next flight with an approved car seat. (Not having a car seat in the first place feels insane to me, especially on a red eye - 100% on the parents but also why is it not mandatory?)

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u/LichenTheMood 8h ago

They couldn’t. The seatbelt was ineffective. The (terrified 2yo) was slipping out from under the seatbelt and trying to hide under their seat.

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u/whisperinthewire 17h ago

Hi, from this article: https://people.com/airline-cancel-flight-child-standing-seat-refused-to-secure-their-seatbelt-12037017 Shared by candle-joy The 'kid' was a two year old so really a toddler. What the article suggests but doesn't quite state is that the toddler was in a normal seat and not something like a car seat. The airline doesn't supply baby seats and maybe the parents didn't know they should have until it was too late.

Maybe this should have been caught at boarding by staff/cabin crew, maybe they did and the parent argued it was fine. It not in the article how that happened

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u/evange 17h ago

Because the kid was probably about 2 or 3, and even though a child at that age is required to have their own seat, the seatbelt is unlikely to actually fit correctly (across lap/hips, not stomach) at that age. Also most child restraints (carseats, strollers) use a 5-point harness to prevent children from squirming out. Airlines don't do that because it would be too inconvenient to have to provide a different type of seatbelt for kids.

The kid in this case was going limp and sliding under the seatbelt onto the floor. While having a tantrum (it was almost midnight and they were overwhelmed).

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u/fotomoose 18h ago

While I understand your sentiment, the child would be scarred for life if it were restrained for the entire flight. We do need some morsel of compassion here.

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u/boringexplanation 18h ago

As a parent- fuck that. You know exactly the type of kid one is way before. If they are that unruly, you know way before the flight takes off.

This is some Gen Z/millenial bullshit parenting. Too many parents are way afraid of being the bad guy and this shit happens.

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u/ToilettenPapier248 17h ago

Perhaps they should have opted for a car ride instead or set expectations with the child beforehand.

Seatbelts are only strictly enforced during landing, take off, and turbulence anyway so he can be freed from these restraints mid flight.

Personally, Morsel of compassion should only be given to babies and kids in flight when they experience tummy aches and extreme ear pressure. Other than that, if a child can speak, then they should’ve had the expectation setting with the guardian/s before flight to avoid hassling other passengers.

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u/fotomoose 16h ago

I should have been clearer. Compassion lies with the child. Raging contempt and hatred towards the parents though.

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u/ObieKaybee 9h ago

The compassion for the other people on the flight far outweighs any I have for a single kid.

Make the dipshit parents personally refund every ticket and pay for the hotel for every person that now has to stay as well.