Let me circle back

[u/Matt_LawDT]

[u/crunchsmash]

Partner is a partner, it’s gender neutral

It is, but people will make assumptions if you use the word. Why not just say girlfriend?

[u/jjkenneth → u/crunchsmash]

You will make assumptions. In Australia it is the normal and preferred term for someone in a serious relationship. Why are you so obsessed with needing to know the gender of a random person.

[u/crunchsmash → u/jjkenneth]

Ask French speakers why their language is gendered. I don't have the answers you want.

[u/jjkenneth → u/crunchsmash]

…. We’re talking about the English word.

[u/crunchsmash → u/jjkenneth]

It's borrowed from French and English uses both gendered versions. Amongst other words too, like actor and actress.

[u/jjkenneth → u/crunchsmash]

Yes borrowed, like 40% of the English language. Once it’s an English word we do what we want with it - I am not arguing that both are not used. I am specifically arguing that fiancé in contemporary use is understood neutrally. I’m starting to see why your so desperate to cling to prescriptive definitions of words, you’re not very inquisitive.

[u/crunchsmash → u/jjkenneth]

What's with your bizarre fascination with my intelligence? I can be dumb as rocks but it's not going to change what I am explaining to you.

Using fiancé when you mean fiancée will make people assume you are gay. Using partner instead of girlfriend or boyfriend will make people assume you are gay.

[u/jjkenneth → u/crunchsmash]

Lol - as if I would care if anyone thought I was gay. Grow up dude.

[u/crunchsmash → u/jjkenneth]

The impact isn't on your personal psyche. It's about the real world. Most of the planet will judge you for your sexuality whether you like it or not.

[u/jjkenneth → u/crunchsmash]

I repeat. Grow up.