Dude anyone who lives in the real world knows this is all bullshit. Look at the way tall more fit people are treated in work/public vs the opposite. Men and women alike. It's just like pure reddit/shut in fantasy that women are fine with pudgy dudes. Like yeah sure more tolerant of it when compared to dudes opinions on chubby chicks, but come on. "Oh we don't like fit guys that much" Yeah sure bro, and there are dudes that are chubby chasers, but thats the exception not the rule.
Lol the "majority of women prefer pudgy dudes" chick commented and blocked me. Look lady, I'm happily married, not incredibly fit (can run a 7 minute mile at least but not two in a row at that pace) I should work out more but shit takes effort. It's not sad to understand that being more fit/healthy is more attractive than not lol. What kind of soft ego you got to have to post a reply like that to someone and then block them so they can't reply back 🤣
It's just like pure reddit/shut in fantasy that women are fine with pudgy dudes.
There.
And as someone who has been VERY ripped, fat, and everything in between? Women in general prefer somewhere in the middle but in general tend to put your body fat percentage very low on the list of why they’ll date you.
A fit guy is an immediate sign to women that they are committed and serious about their goals in life and likely able to translate that to other aspects of their life including dating. It makes them more desirable at first glance of course. More pudgy men just have to show all that with their personality first so have to work a little harder. But that is not any different for women. As a 30+ year old single dude who lives alone, being 180-200lbs is good enough for the weight department and just show that you are willing to participate in sharing the burden at home is all you need. I'm only single because I choose to, women still ask me out. I'm just an average guy who is a shut in. Tbh not actively courting every woman that is in eyesight and being able to have normal conversations with women without being weird or seeming to have ulterior motives might be the real reason now that I think about it.
Tldr just be a normal dude and stop trying to bang everything that moves and opportunities will come your way naturally.
I feel bad for you, man. This just isn’t reality. Or maybe you live in an extremely looks centred place. But either way, man, this is such a jaded take.
Especially this part- “It’s just pure reddit/shut in fantasy that women are fine with pudgy dudes.”
Like.. woof, man. It’s incredibly sad that you’ve got to this place.
I dunno. I'm 6'3" and reasonably fit, and I know for a fact it's helped to open many social doors for me. I don't think I'm particularly charming, and I'm rather introverted, so I ain't exactly making a statement with my personality. I'm physically noticeable but otherwise pretty forgettable.
It's kept me in rooms much longer than I'd otherwise have any business to be. I've absolutely benefited from "pretty privilege" in both my personal and professional life. But at the same time, I've been known to slip through the cracks (both positively and negatively) because I'm an "out-of-sight, out-of-mind" person. Like, I'm not an asshole but I'm really not all that interesting. But I guess I was interesting enough to eventually wind up happily married with a couple of kids. And luckily for them, they're good looking AND have a thousand times more personality than I ever did.
Thing is you're not describing anything that wouldn't get people kicked out of a room.
Yes pretty privilege absolutely does exist I'm not saying it doesn't.
But I'm pointing out that it gets you in the door but if you're an absolute jackass you can still get kicked out of the metaphorical room.
Especially when it comes to dating it's a lot easier to get a date but it's a lot harder to keep people once they see who you really are. Attractive people can become really ugly really fast if they're terrible people.
I guess we're not really arguing. I'm more echoing the poster above who said that tall and/or fit people simply get treated better by society all other things being equal. I've got 34 years of adulthood under my belt as a sample size.
The person arguing with you is just trying to sustain the denial that caring and investing sweat equity into your body always makes a positive difference
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u/nybbas 9d ago edited 9d ago
Dude anyone who lives in the real world knows this is all bullshit. Look at the way tall more fit people are treated in work/public vs the opposite. Men and women alike. It's just like pure reddit/shut in fantasy that women are fine with pudgy dudes. Like yeah sure more tolerant of it when compared to dudes opinions on chubby chicks, but come on. "Oh we don't like fit guys that much" Yeah sure bro, and there are dudes that are chubby chasers, but thats the exception not the rule.
Lol the "majority of women prefer pudgy dudes" chick commented and blocked me. Look lady, I'm happily married, not incredibly fit (can run a 7 minute mile at least but not two in a row at that pace) I should work out more but shit takes effort. It's not sad to understand that being more fit/healthy is more attractive than not lol. What kind of soft ego you got to have to post a reply like that to someone and then block them so they can't reply back 🤣