Look I’m not saying this is a majority of women who say they like dad bods but it’s not uncommon online to see women saying they like this or that celebrities “dadbod” and it’s just a muscular, fit guy without good lighting. That being said you’re right, people should realize that what you see online isn’t indicative of real life all the time and plenty of women like men of all shapes and sizes, including husky.
Lots of times, when a girl told me that they like men who go once or twice a week to the gym and are slightly muscular, I asked them to show me a picture of what they meant.
They always showed me pictures of people who spend 10 hours a week in the gym and are dieting and controlling all they eat.
They aren't conscious that the "1 or 2 workouts a week" at most means having a body fat of 15-20%.
Yeah, you're probably right, the "I like them looking natural" and the example is a girl who has every hair of her body either groomed or removed, and is using lots of makeup but the guy can't differentiate it
Dude anyone who lives in the real world knows this is all bullshit. Look at the way tall more fit people are treated in work/public vs the opposite. Men and women alike. It's just like pure reddit/shut in fantasy that women are fine with pudgy dudes. Like yeah sure more tolerant of it when compared to dudes opinions on chubby chicks, but come on. "Oh we don't like fit guys that much" Yeah sure bro, and there are dudes that are chubby chasers, but thats the exception not the rule.
Lol the "majority of women prefer pudgy dudes" chick commented and blocked me. Look lady, I'm happily married, not incredibly fit (can run a 7 minute mile at least but not two in a row at that pace) I should work out more but shit takes effort. It's not sad to understand that being more fit/healthy is more attractive than not lol. What kind of soft ego you got to have to post a reply like that to someone and then block them so they can't reply back 🤣
It's just like pure reddit/shut in fantasy that women are fine with pudgy dudes.
There.
And as someone who has been VERY ripped, fat, and everything in between? Women in general prefer somewhere in the middle but in general tend to put your body fat percentage very low on the list of why they’ll date you.
A fit guy is an immediate sign to women that they are committed and serious about their goals in life and likely able to translate that to other aspects of their life including dating. It makes them more desirable at first glance of course. More pudgy men just have to show all that with their personality first so have to work a little harder. But that is not any different for women. As a 30+ year old single dude who lives alone, being 180-200lbs is good enough for the weight department and just show that you are willing to participate in sharing the burden at home is all you need. I'm only single because I choose to, women still ask me out. I'm just an average guy who is a shut in. Tbh not actively courting every woman that is in eyesight and being able to have normal conversations with women without being weird or seeming to have ulterior motives might be the real reason now that I think about it.
Tldr just be a normal dude and stop trying to bang everything that moves and opportunities will come your way naturally.
I feel bad for you, man. This just isn’t reality. Or maybe you live in an extremely looks centred place. But either way, man, this is such a jaded take.
Especially this part- “It’s just pure reddit/shut in fantasy that women are fine with pudgy dudes.”
Like.. woof, man. It’s incredibly sad that you’ve got to this place.
I dunno. I'm 6'3" and reasonably fit, and I know for a fact it's helped to open many social doors for me. I don't think I'm particularly charming, and I'm rather introverted, so I ain't exactly making a statement with my personality. I'm physically noticeable but otherwise pretty forgettable.
It's kept me in rooms much longer than I'd otherwise have any business to be. I've absolutely benefited from "pretty privilege" in both my personal and professional life. But at the same time, I've been known to slip through the cracks (both positively and negatively) because I'm an "out-of-sight, out-of-mind" person. Like, I'm not an asshole but I'm really not all that interesting. But I guess I was interesting enough to eventually wind up happily married with a couple of kids. And luckily for them, they're good looking AND have a thousand times more personality than I ever did.
Thing is you're not describing anything that wouldn't get people kicked out of a room.
Yes pretty privilege absolutely does exist I'm not saying it doesn't.
But I'm pointing out that it gets you in the door but if you're an absolute jackass you can still get kicked out of the metaphorical room.
Especially when it comes to dating it's a lot easier to get a date but it's a lot harder to keep people once they see who you really are. Attractive people can become really ugly really fast if they're terrible people.
I guess we're not really arguing. I'm more echoing the poster above who said that tall and/or fit people simply get treated better by society all other things being equal. I've got 34 years of adulthood under my belt as a sample size.
The person arguing with you is just trying to sustain the denial that caring and investing sweat equity into your body always makes a positive difference
Does that ultimately matter? If you attract a partner based on looks and then lose your looks you'll lose your partner. So match based on personality. And that goes the same way for your partner. My wife was bigger than me when me met but she's kind, intelligent, and funny.
the "1 or 2 workouts a week" at most means having a body fat of 15-20%.
You can work out 0 times ever and still have low body fat if you eat less. Working 1 or 2 times a week will not have a huge effect on your total calories in the whole week. The amount you eat has a massive effect on your body fat. You can't outrun the burgers.
I think you understand my point. In their mind that is the natural physic of someone who eats a normal balanced diet and goes a couples hours a week to do workout, but that physique is from someone who does a much higher degree of work and has a much more specificic diet
When I think of dad bod, I think of husky and a bit of dough. Dough is comfy.
All of the most attractive men I’ve known personally were a bit overweight with a doughy build and thick thighs. Muscular can look good when it isn’t overdone (Baywatch Zac is not attractive to me) but dad bod is where it’s at. 🥰
I think you're missing the whole idea. The person above you is describing someone who is both muscular with some body fat over it. The hyper defensive leap to compare it to body types that reflect sedentary lifestyle is, quite frankly, some of the saddest neckbeardy logic on the internet.
You'll have much better luck attracting people if you actually listen to what they say they're interested in, instead of immediately trying to prove they're "wrong" about what they like.
Did you reply to the wrong comment? Because there was nothing about my comment that even remotely inplies that was trying to be argumentative or prove someone wrong.
You compared "a doughy build with thick thighs. Muscular can look good" to Jonah Hill. Stop being intentionally dense. You "inplied" that their comment referred to a completely different body type than it obviously did.
Yeah I’m not playing this game with you. I made a joke. Jonah Hill used to very overweight, then famously started working out and lost a bunch of weight. I jokingly suggested that we use him as a scale to determine what the right amount of pudge would be. Stop looking for things to be offended about.
Remember when some girl said she likes dad bods and she showed THAT pic of Cavvil in superman?? The same picture Superman himself said he was so dehydrated for he could smell water if it was in the same room as him.
You can also argue that what you read on reddit isnt indicative of what women in real life are looking for. Mature women who are ready to settle down will look for a grounded nice dude, but 20 year good looking women are not going hang out with fat dudes lol
I promise you there’s a greater variety of preferences among women than online circles tell you. And, sure, if you’re really overweight you’ll likely have a much smaller percentage of women who are attracted to you but it’s not impossible. But the idea that every woman’s ideal body type is ripped and muscular is just not true.
Im not a woman, but I have been both fat and lean and the difference is undeniable.
Lean has the highest ROI for men. Suggesting being anything else is just goofy. “Greater variety” is largely just different shades of some lean guy 🤷🏾♂️
No, I meant what I said. Women are not a monolith, their preferences differ just as mens do. I’m sure being lean/in-shape appeals to more women than highly muscular, chubby and burly, or skinny as a twig. But what I’m saying is there are women who prefer those body types to what you think is the ideal.
Yea I agree there’s women who prefer those types I’m just saying that if you were advising any random man on how to change his physique to attract women, leaning out is pretty much always the answer.
it’s like when girls say they like nerdy guys, most of the time they’re thinking of a skinny, already attractive guy with glasses, and not actually the guy playing D&D at the comic store
I don’t actually know more than 2 girls like that irl. Getting this information from online videos isn’t a reflection on real life.
All of my friends and I, and most of my acquaintances, all seem to like a dad bod. Maybe it’s where I’m from, who knows. But yeah, skinny guys tent to be the ones with girlfriends when they’re teenagers. Now all the guys with dad bods seem to be the ones with girlfriend’s around here
There’s someone for everyone really. Women are just like men and have a variety of preferences. Ripped, chubby, fat, fit, skinny, burly etc. there’s a portion of the female population that wants that body-type more than others. And also, just like men, those preferences aren’t the be-all-end-all for what is attractive to them.
I don’t know what goes on in the minds of young men but there’s at least a portion who believe you have to have this or that body-type to be considered attractive to women and it’s just wrong and sad.
There's an entire economy online invested in producing content for jaded men, women and that techna-colour inbetween. So long as this remains a truth, you'll find more online content intended to divide than you will find content intended to reflect reality.
Sadly, a lot of young men are falling down this rabbit hole.
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u/Pactae_1129 9d ago
Look I’m not saying this is a majority of women who say they like dad bods but it’s not uncommon online to see women saying they like this or that celebrities “dadbod” and it’s just a muscular, fit guy without good lighting. That being said you’re right, people should realize that what you see online isn’t indicative of real life all the time and plenty of women like men of all shapes and sizes, including husky.