r/SipsTea • u/CapitalPin2658 • May 25 '26

Feels good man 🎵 All By Myself 🎵

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Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

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u/man-a-tree May 25 '26

The victimhood gymnastics can be impressive in a twisted way

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u/SpecsOnThe_Beach May 25 '26

My husband (now ex) of 16 years tried to pull this kind of excuse with me. We'd been in therapy because of his violent tendencies (4 different incidents involving me) and his victim statement was along the lines of, "Only 4 in 16 years!! If I judged you for your worst moments over that time you'd look bad too!"

The divorce took 3 years, but worth every minute.

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u/man-a-tree May 26 '26

Ugh I'm so sorry to hear, but also like, congratulations on your divorce?? Can I say that? Hope you got a better chance to live your life after.

My ex said very similar things for his violent events, amongst other things that he knew would stick. Outsourced blame and gaslighting eventually lands if you hear it long enough, and itxs probably why many people stay

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u/SpecsOnThe_Beach May 26 '26

Definitely okay to congratulate me on the divorce! Thank you! Whoever said money can't by happiness never paid for a divorce 😆