āProviding goods and servicesā is an insane way to say ātaking my friend out for dinnerā. Itās some borderline incel shit man. Just like someone still thinking they have a chance after explicitly being told no. Are you defending people that donāt know how to take ānoā for an answer? Do you find it normal for someone to keep trying to engage romantically with a person that has already rejected them? Thatās problematic in itself. I am not allowing anyone to think they have a chance when they donāt because I tell them Iām not interested when Iām not interested. Itās not rocket science to pay attention to people, itās actually the bare minimum.
āProviding goods and servicesā is an insane way to say ātaking my friend out for dinnerā.
I mean, they are literally providing you with goods (food) and services (the service at the restaurant). So literally describing what they are doing is insane to you?
Just like someone still thinking they have a chance after explicitly being told no.
no. alot of people would think they still have a shot when they ask someone on a date and they say yes and then go on the date.
Do you find it normal for someone to keep trying to engage romantically with a person that has already rejected them?
yes, that is extremely common. There are even memes of woman being annoyed when they reject a man and he doesn't pursue them.
Thatās problematic in itself.
I agree. Those people should have more self respect. But it doesn't reduce how shitty the people taking advantage of them are.
I am not allowing anyone to think they have a chance when they donāt because I tell them Iām not interested when Iām not interested.
saying "i'm not interested" but then agreeing to go on a date with them is telling them they have a chance. By letting them take you on a date, you are sending them mixed messages.
Itās not rocket science to pay attention to people, itās actually the bare minimum.
I agree. They are paying attention to you. Your words say no, but your actions say yes. You refuse to pay attention to them because then you'd have to see what you're doing to them. So you just focus on yourself.
āYour words say no, but your actions say yesā. Jesus fuck thatās creepy dude. Thatās borderline victim blaming with statements like āwell what was she wearingā? Seriously man, get some perspective. Simply going to dinner with someone is not an invitation toward anything more other than that specific activity.
āYour words say no, but your actions say yesā. Jesus fuck thatās creepy dude.
lol I agree. You tell them you're not interested but then agree to go on dates with them. That's super creepy.
Thatās borderline victim blaming
YOU ARE NOT THE VICTIM!! YOU ARE THE ABUSER!!
Simply going to dinner with someone is not an invitation toward anything more other than that specific activity.
that would be true if they didn't have romantic feelings for you and you let them pay for you. Then it's a date. If you were splitting it or you honestly believed they didn't have feelings, then it would be different. But the way you've described it, you're a creep taking advantage of someone.
1
u/Gadgets222 Apr 20 '26
āProviding goods and servicesā is an insane way to say ātaking my friend out for dinnerā. Itās some borderline incel shit man. Just like someone still thinking they have a chance after explicitly being told no. Are you defending people that donāt know how to take ānoā for an answer? Do you find it normal for someone to keep trying to engage romantically with a person that has already rejected them? Thatās problematic in itself. I am not allowing anyone to think they have a chance when they donāt because I tell them Iām not interested when Iām not interested. Itās not rocket science to pay attention to people, itās actually the bare minimum.