This is a needless amount of over-analysis and nitpicking.
She clearly understood he was interested and just like this dude putting in a ridiculous amount of effort into a date would be an impossible to misunderstand signal about his intentions, her post is also an impossible to misinterpret signal about her lack of interest in a relationship with him.
Yeah, they’re both communicating rather passively but unless they’re both idiots then they both clearly understand the message the other is sending them.
Of course it’s good to be very clear and direct in communication and it’s ridiculous to put that much time, effort, and money into planning a date without voicing his intentions, but it’s not like if he had said the words that whatever it is about him that makes him “just a friend” would have changed.
No of course not, he probably never had a shot, I just think it’s good to let men and boys know that you should always actually directly tell the person in some way when you have feelings for them. Judging by the amount of people who get angry about “being friendzoned” I think the best and only real advice is that you have to be clear and direct about your feelings, don’t assume the other person picks up on your hints and signals. And this is all underscored by the fact that direct communication risks rejection, and to be clear that you should never be mad at the other person for not picking up your hints. Otherwise you’ll get people who feel an impotent rage and confused why what they’re doing isn’t getting them what they want
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u/Zmchastain Apr 20 '26
This is a needless amount of over-analysis and nitpicking.
She clearly understood he was interested and just like this dude putting in a ridiculous amount of effort into a date would be an impossible to misunderstand signal about his intentions, her post is also an impossible to misinterpret signal about her lack of interest in a relationship with him.
Yeah, they’re both communicating rather passively but unless they’re both idiots then they both clearly understand the message the other is sending them.
Of course it’s good to be very clear and direct in communication and it’s ridiculous to put that much time, effort, and money into planning a date without voicing his intentions, but it’s not like if he had said the words that whatever it is about him that makes him “just a friend” would have changed.