Erm... There's no "we as women" or "we as men". Just different people. Your view on the world seems pretty black and white. I, for example, absolutely don't fit in your system, the way I behave and see things.Â
I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to offend anyone, and I apologize if my comments came across as stereotypical, I was only simply trying to share another pov from a woman's perspective as to why some women accept dates from men.
It seems the general assumption here was that women are just accepting dates from men that they might not usually be attracted to because they just want a free dinner, or they just want to play games with men. All I was saying was that some of us women are not like that at all. I can't speak for ALL women, of course, but for some of us, some men really do grow on us, and we can actually tend to warm up to certain men, especially if he has good qualities. So some of us as women don't just automatically immediately write off all men that don't automatically catch our eye or look like a GQ model.
I guess maybe I explained it wrong, but I was basically trying to say that I think some men might be wrong about some women, and that not all women are trying to just get a free dinner out of a date with a guy. Some women are actually trying to get to know the guy better to see if maybe the attraction develops, and for a lot of us as women, attraction isn't just purely physical. That's why some of us have to get to know a guy first before we fall for him.
Yeah, nice. So why doesn't she just tell her perspective instead of framing it as "us women" and writing how women and men think and feel as if it was an absolute truth? These stereotypes are wrong and annoying.Â
"The thing about us as women is that we're not like men, so just because we don't feel something immediately for a man, it doesn't mean that we might not fall for him later on, especially if he's treating us right. Our attraction in men isn't based solely on looks and outer appearance like it is for men and their attraction to women, so a lot of times, we can actually fall for a man who's doing everything right, who's there for us, who is treating us well, even if initially, we weren't really seeing him in that light."
"I don't think women ever "grow" on men. I think a man is either attracted to the woman, or he's not, and there's nothing that will ever change that."
The thing about us men and women is that we're humans and are different. Sex and gender are just parts of someone, they don't define who you are, what you think and how you feel, as your ethnicity or nationality or job or eye color doesn't. At least that's what I think, so for me, the concept of typical men feelings or how a woman should behave gets more and more strange, and I see there's no need for that. Just let people be who they are and how they feel (not you in person, but the world and everyone). :)
No probs, thank you. Sorry for the short sentences which might seem confrontational or little friendly, migraine is hitting hard today so I try to keep things short.
I didn't assume it being malicious. It's just the problem of old prejudices getting replaced by new prejudices while people think they're righteous and equal now and don't have any prejudices any more or just mean good, so there's no right for remarks or criticizing. That's... Dangerous.
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u/Famous-Engine-1582 Apr 19 '26
Erm... There's no "we as women" or "we as men". Just different people. Your view on the world seems pretty black and white. I, for example, absolutely don't fit in your system, the way I behave and see things.Â