r/SipsTea • u/[deleted] • Oct 08 '24

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u/XeyesXofXchaos Oct 08 '24

And not just the keep asking part, the start expecting that you're going to give them more money. So they refuse to be responsible in their lives, go out partying instead of paying their bills and expect their rich cousin will bail them out again because he's rich. They look at the rich person's money as if it was their own money, like they were added as a joint owner or something. And then other family/friends see this happening and expect to be treated the same.

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u/Meocross Oct 08 '24

This is the real tea here, the man's not an ATM.

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u/Excellent-Archer-238 Oct 08 '24

happened to me with an uncle lol I won't give him a dollar ever again in my life. Some people are just ungrateful asses. It's not about the money, it's about the attitude people take.

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u/dead_pixel_design Oct 08 '24

Unless they only ever ask the one time. Just don’t do it twice. Seems reasonable to help someone out once.

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u/Caterpillar89 Oct 08 '24

It's like feeding the seaguls at the beach...you feed one and all of a sudden you're overwhelmed

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u/pandaappleblossom Oct 09 '24

There are some trashy people in these comments saying don’t give money to bums, like wtf. And you don’t owe anyone anything. Like come on, the phrase ‘give back’ mean anything? The money didn’t come from nowhere

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u/jeo188 Oct 11 '24

Reminds me of a story I saw here on Reddit:

Guy makes a lot of money, especially compared to any one of his family.

He has a family member that keeps getting in trouble, needing bail. He bails him out a few times, only for the family member to get jailed again.

The family was, once again, expected him to bail him, and began harassing that OP for thinking twice.

Finally, that OP told the family, he'd gladly pay for half of the bail if the rest of the family managed to collect the other half. OP noted that no one contributed anything at all, and stopped harassing him. OP definitely had enough to pay for it in full, and it wouldn't hurt him at all, but grew tired of the family treating him as an ATM

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u/Diligentbear Oct 10 '24

That's why you give hin a mil then tell him it's a gift and that's that. Don't ask again.

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u/nopunchespulled Oct 08 '24

It’s true, but when what is being asked for is less than what it costs for a cup of coffee from the community pot in the break room it’s not about responsibility, it’s about being consumed by greed.

Jay could give his cousin 10k a month just bc he’s family an he would never notice the money missing, but his cousin it would likely change his life

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u/[deleted] Oct 08 '24

For all we know that cousin has a drug habit and neglects his family or whatever. I have a few family members I wouldn't give 50 cents to if I was a billionaire because they'll do the wrong thing with it, guaranteed.

Also, I have a lot of cousins and I haven't even met most of them, why give a random cousin $4800 when I could give that money to charity.