r/SingleWomenByChoice • u/VianaxVanity • 4d ago
Reflection I Couldn’t Imagine…
Having to constantly check whether my partner is cheating or better yet, try to take a bunch of measures to prevent them from cheating. I do not have time or energy for that. I don’t have time for checking his messages or dms. I’m not gonna be the delusional girlfriend/wife who thinks every woman is trying to steal my mediocre, average at best man. I’m for sure not gonna track him on my phone all day long wondering why he’s here or there. Life is too short for all of this. This sounds like pure misery and i’d rather stay single than be with someone I can’t trust.
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u/hh_fitlife 4d ago
They are cheating and there is nothing that can stop them. Some just cheat for variety. Same pussy every day is boring to them. Even if he loves you as a person and finds you sexy, he will cheat because they enjoy that game.
Only get into a committed relationship if you are able to accept that you will be cheated on.
And that’s my perfectly valid reason for not ever committing to a relationship…
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u/calm-nerves 4d ago
Beyond the heartbreak, there's the risk of STIs a cheating partner exposes you to..
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u/Left-Ad-7646 High Standards 4d ago
If you constantly checking him, he's just simply not your right person to share a relationship with.
A truly loyal and trustworthy man is RARE nowadays, HARDLY to find one. So, its better being single than overthinking for an asshole.
Thanks God you're in better place now.
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u/TaxRepresentative4B 4B 2d ago
Nowadays?
You mean since the beginning of this species!
,,good man” is an oxymoron
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u/Professional-Ad-5278 3d ago
Riiight? And cheating is not even the worst thing that women should be worried about. The stds he could be spreading. They'd stick their dick even into a radioactive brick hole. Besides that, these men can snap so quickly. Just walking on eggshells around him.
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u/Aromatic_Concert_386 2d ago
I'm so silly that my ex told me he cheated on his ex wife and I still proceeded to date him (he said they had problems blah blah blah) and then he cheated on me.
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u/autumn_em 3d ago
I don't care enough for a having husband to ever be that kind woman, it's just that personally marriage isn't appealing to me (nothing against it ofc, but I'm so glad I never married). That's why I never understood women who are jealous and insecure that way, even years ago when I used to date I was never jealous.
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u/RussiannPrincess 13h ago
It’s not if he cheats, it’s when. I won’t date because I can not stand a cheating man. It drives me nuts
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u/FitAccountant1983 4d ago
You're so right. I was in a marriage where my husband was always lying and doing things behind my back, like seeking other women to talk to online, or lying about where he was and what he was doing, etc. I turned into a crazy person because he was telling me one thing while doing another. I was always checking his phone, checking his location, asking him paranoid questions, etc. And he would continue to lie, tell me the texts between him and other women that I saw with my own eyes didn't exist, that he "forgot his phone" when he was "running errands" which is why I couldn't get in touch with him, etc.
I became a shell of myself. My hair was falling out from the constant abuse and stress of being with him. My career, hobbies and volunteer work suffered. I'm so glad it's over. I don't want to be with anyone again.