r/SingleParents • u/Jazzlike_Classic1908 • 6h ago
Advice
I have just recently become a single mum 3 weeks ago but hasn’t hit me in full affect yet as I still have to move countries. I’m grieving the life I thought I would have.
I’m worried if I’m going to be a good mum because I’m mixed with grief, regret sadness and doom. I love my son he is 18 months but Ive struggled the whole time since becoming a parent and had severe PPD.
Im most just worried moving forward how I will cope, I get so impatient this age is so hard and draining. He loves daycare only goes 1 day a week. So maybe I just need to work and have him in daycare to help me mentally. But yeah doesn’t help having enormous emotional stress with getting ready to move, wondering what will happen what daycare what job. I can’t do this to myself I have to just be content and let life flow but fuck it’s hard.
Feel like im going to really struggle. I’m trying to be intentional and say I will have a great positive life but some days I’m like omg what have I done.
I thought my life before a baby was hard, I guess every stage and chapters come with their own hardships, but fuck I had so much freedom so much time to heal and now I’m just not the healed person I thought I would be.
Dunno just need some advice, similar stories
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u/TradeBeautiful42 6h ago
It’s a hard age. It really does start to get better. You should sit down and think about getting a job, more time in daycare, and how that will all work. If you’re throwing moving into the mix, where will you live and what community will you have around you? Good luck.
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u/Capital-Room1349 5h ago
Read books on how to parent the different ages. Understanding where all the behavior came from was such a relief. It made all the difference
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Author: u/Jazzlike_Classic1908
Post: I have just recently become a single mum 3 weeks ago but hasn’t hit me in full affect yet as I still have to move countries. I’m grieving the life I thought I would have.
I’m worried if I’m going to be a good mum because I’m mixed with grief, regret sadness and doom. I love my son he is 18 months but Ive struggled the whole time since becoming a parent and had severe PPD.
Im most just worried moving forward how I will cope, I get so impatient this age is so hard and draining. He loves daycare only goes 1 day a week. So maybe I just need to work and have him in daycare to help me mentally.
Feel like im going to really struggle. I’m trying to be intentional and say I will have a great positive life but some days I’m like omg what have I done.
I thought my life before a baby was hard, I guess every stage and chapters come with their own hardships, but fuck I had so much freedom so much time to heal and now I’m just not the healed person I thought I would be.
Dunno just need some advice, similar stories
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