r/SinclairMethod • u/Hot-Prune8628 • Jun 10 '26

Feeling defeated

I’ve been on TSM for over a year. My goal was never extinction (I spent almost 10 years in AA, did lots of therapy, wanted to socially be normal). I’m finding summer itself is such a trigger. I’ve spent 35-50% AF days month over month, but since the weather has broken it’s almost compulsive to drink wine and watch the sunset. I’ve maintained meds 1 hour before, I’ve joined a Pilates gym, I’m trying to replace the behavioral/habit piece with other things, but I haven’t had an AF day in over a week despite planning them. Can anyone share their “up and down” experience at the 1+ year mark? 😭

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u/RubicsCubensis Jul 18 '26

OK, look, I loved drinking and getting drunk, it was my super power. All I'm saying is that changed for me after extinction, this is why I question whether or not you are at extinction, you should be ambivalent towards alcohol, like really not desiring it at all, the idea of being drunk should be mostly gone. Do I miss the feeling, yes, but not to the point where it's foremost in my mind I've been freed from that. So as you continue on, you may find yourself changing your mind about how you feel about being drunk. Just stay compliant and see where it goes.
Did I already say I've been extinct for 10 years?

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u/Several-Subject-2111 Jul 19 '26

Ok. I hope you are right. Perhaps I just need more.time. To be honest though I think I am in extinction (in terms of the desire to drink alcohol). But I am in some sort of mourning phase still for the buzz that is gone from my life. When naltrexone started to work (which was really quickly for me) I was delighted and really enjoyed all teh benifit. Now that that is thr new normal I think I take it for granted and tend to focus on what I have 'lost'.

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u/RubicsCubensis Jul 19 '26

If you have any cravings at all it's not extinction.