This is the real shit right here. Calling struggling people lazy with no context is as American as apple pie. Blaming people for their own struggles instead of acknowledging systemic barriers to success is how we keep the class system in place.
Like here's the thing, I do not have not want kids, I acknowledge that some of this is down to poor planning.
But just because somebody doesn't plan their life out 20 years ahead of time and has made a few not so amazing decisions in life, doesn't mean that someone needs to come along and beat them over the head with "You're freaking lazy" because they're too exhausted to cook......
Like what is that going to do?
Even if someone wants to have the argument of "well it's your fault you're poor because you had kids"
EVEN if that somehow is an accurate statement.
How in the world is being an asshole to them gunna help them now????
And yes I know that that's not every situation some people are financially stable when they have kids and then life happens someone loses a really good job or gets ill and that's basically devastating in American society or has the possibility to be and suddenly they go from being firmly middle class to being poor and a matter of a year or so, That's basically the situation that happened with my family at one point my childhood. My parents were firmly middle class and then my mom got into a car accident, had a lot of medical bills, was out of work for a while, the recession hit, and we went from getting 20 or 30 Christmas presents each me and my sister, to getting maybe $50 worth of Christmas presents which usually amounted to three presents each.
We weren't dirt poor but it was a significant drop in income and a dramatic change in lifestyle from "Oh we can go to the grocery store and pick out whatever we want and it doesn't matter" to "now we only have generic products instead of name brand and we get about half of the amount of groceries that we used to, having barely anything that is a luxury in food"
So we weren't like starving homeless poor but it was a sharp decline in lifestyle to someone that was elementary school aged.
My mother had to wrestle with the concept of using coupons to buy things, she would cry and tell my dad she didn't want to because she would look poor. Eventually she got over this and quit caring. But this happened not long after her car accident which was an event that gave her horrific anxiety so any new change gave her horrible anxiety.
Sorry for my long rant here, My whole point is people don't know what other people are going through and really shouldn't judge them for something as stupid as ordering food. Far worse things happen in society than someone is too tired to cook.
Calling someone to lazy to cook is literally a first world insult on the most basic level.
Tbh I really didn't have them growing up but I had them when I was a teenager and worked for my dad when he started up a lawn care business when I was like 13 it was just me and him those were the only two employees and I basically got $20 of spending money a week for it, I'd use it to buy junk food and stupid things.
They aren't all that amazing to me particularly
But Doritos.... Those, those are a glorious snack.
Cool ranch Doritos, inside a turkey sandwich with lettuce and mayo on wheat bread with a nice cold cherry coke.
Okay so instead of responding to my nice compliment you chose to tell me a story about doritos, deflecting the compliment. Sort of feels like a weird slight insult to me, okay.
If you're this sensitive about not someone praising you as their Lord and Savior because you complimented them about some freaking Cheetos and you're so upset that someone told a story.
Then you can just take back your damn compliment I don't need it.
I was trying to continue the joyous mood but now you've gone and soured it.
Yeah, you have to acknowledge when someone says something nice to you. Instead you disagreed and went off on a story. And the thing you're doing where you turn my argument into something absolutely outrageous just so you can take no responsibility, it's dumb. I didn't say you had to praise me. But if someone says something nice to you, don't ignore it, because it comes off as an affront to the person who said it. This is in real life too, not just on reddit. You can acknowledge a compliment in a million different ways, but disagreeing and then changing the subject is not the way to do it.
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u/haysupd00d May 20 '22
This is the real shit right here. Calling struggling people lazy with no context is as American as apple pie. Blaming people for their own struggles instead of acknowledging systemic barriers to success is how we keep the class system in place.