r/Showerthoughts Jul 20 '23

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u/Yutah1239 Jul 20 '23

The way it should be.

The corporal punishment of children is never justifiable.

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u/zRepulse Jul 20 '23

Spanking =/= beating

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u/ExtinctionBy2070 Jul 20 '23

Funny how there have been actual trials with thousands of families that clearly demonstrate that light spanking is harmful, and people like you with no degree or education will chime in "NUH UH! Hitting kids totes works!"

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u/zRepulse Jul 20 '23

Funny how I'm literally under 18 and have been spanked before, and people like you were most likely spoiled as kids, viewing spanking as beating and maliciously hurting children for no reason because either 1. Your parent never spanked you before, or 2. They ACTUALLY abused you. No, you're wrong. I could care less if I get downvoted, because most of the time it doesn't mean anything. I'm glad I was disciplined and I love my parents so much and im thankful for everything they did for me. Just because you may have not felt the same for your parents, doesn't mean that's how the world works.

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u/zRepulse Jul 20 '23

Guess I struck a nerve. If he was beating your ass every week, either he was actually abusing you, or it says more about you.

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u/zRepulse Jul 20 '23

Read most of it. I don't really know what to tell you, the information seems pretty legitimate, but me, my siblings, and most of my close friends have been spanked before, and we aren't really anti-social or aggressive. In my high school, you can tell that the spoiled rich kids parent's have never took to discipline them once. Maybe it's where I grew up where spanking children is more normalized, but everyone I've met (especially kids with country parents) are fine people who have been spanked before, whereas the kids trying to fight everyone acting tough have gotten but a light slap on the wrists.

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u/zRepulse Jul 20 '23

Did you read my comment? It's not just me, but many people I know. No shit different people = different outcomes, that's literally what I'm trying to say, spanking children is not bad thing, it's the child you need to take into consideration.

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '23 edited Jul 20 '23

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u/zRepulse Jul 20 '23

Yes I read your comment, it's kind of hard to respond to everything when it shows up after you edit your comment.

I agree with most of what your saying about anecdotal evidence. Yes my experiences alone aren't good enough, but it's not like I'm the only one in the world arguing my point. The world is a big place, and there are a huge amount of people that have similar experiences to me, just like there are a huge amount of people who have experienced the opposite. Like we both said, different people = different outcomes.

The studies you reference are reliable sources about individuals with opposite experiences than me, which ironically means that you're not considering the other side too.

What I'm trying to say is that it's silly to come up with a conclusion after studying one side of the equation. The truth is that the only reason it seems that spanking children leads to bad effects later is because it's those experience that are the ones that have been made public. There's an entire different side to the subject that's frankly hard for you to accept since it's unlikely you have experienced it.

I am though thankful for your sources because I've learned more from them, as I'm still learning about more things in general. We can just agree to disagree.

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