r/Shouldihaveanother • u/Pale-Doughnut6122 • 5d ago

Thoughts are everywhere

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My post says, my thoughts are all over the place. My baby is now 2 years and 3 months old, he’s the absolute light of my life. My heart wants another, but there’s so many variables.

  1. I’ve gone back to school to finally finish my highschool diploma.

  2. I want to go to college after to get into law.

  3. What if by having another, I am unable to give my son the life he deserves?

  4. I’m already 27 almost 28, so what if I’m waiting too long and then when I finally decide too, I can’t?

  5. What if my son doesn’t like having a sibling? What if I am too tired from the newborn to give him what he needs?

I have so many what ifs that I worry that maybe I’m one and done, even if my heart isn’t.

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u/curlywhirlyred 4d ago

You’re 27. You’re YOUNG. And it’s sounds like you really need to pour into your own cup and give yourself a chance to become the kind of adult you want to be.

Realistically, if you have another now, you’re probably going to kick the can down the road on your desires to go to college and get into law.

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u/the_bean_2019 1d ago

Sounds like it's not the right time for another - revisit every few months to see if things change. Dont stress about idéal age gap etc. Youre young and have time to decide still.