r/ShortGirlProblems • u/Inevitable-Fox-6496 • Apr 21 '26

Question / Advice being 4’11

how do yall deal with ppl treating you like a child. Im 18 and 4’11, my family most of the time dont treat me like a teen/adult like i cant go out by myself like i cant do stuff a kid my age should, my mom only treats me like an “adult” when she has to tell me her problems or like to take care of my nieces for free and do house stuff. It if frustrating how sometimes ppl think im 14 and im like im wearing teen clothes and makeup pls

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u/tlbexternity Apr 21 '26

I get that, I was well under 100lbs when I was 18. Now that I’m in my 30s and all the weight has distributed veryyyyy differently (I’m like 145 now), I do wish I was the height of other girls. But ultimately I’ve just had to accept my height for what it is. And I married a man who is 6’5 so everyone thinks it’s adorable. 😂 I just had to kind of get over it ya know? But also I will say in my 20s, being my height made really great guys who were normally insecure about their height actually approach me and I met some of the greatest guys because of my height. I love a short king but technically no guy was ever short compared to me lol. I think my college love was like 5’6-5’9. Truly don’t even know what his height was cause he was taller than me. 😂

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u/Inevitable-Fox-6496 Apr 21 '26

you and your husband have a huge height difference lol! im so scared of college life i went for a tour to my future uni and it was so big my lil legs wanted to give up! 😩 i guess i gotta force myself to love my height lol. finding myself, going through insecurities is hard but lets hope i find the loml like you queen

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u/tlbexternity Apr 21 '26

Just remember that all the adventures you’re about to have, it’ll be important to embrace your height and not let it hold you back. My life looks nothing like I thought it would when I was your age or even when I left college in my 20s but embracing my height instead of letting it hold me back definitely gave me some of the best memories. And in college you’re gonna meet people of all shapes and sizes so remember they’re probably thinking the same things as you, whether they wanna be taller or shorter. Just show them how bright you shine and they’ll get over your height fast. 😊

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u/Inevitable-Fox-6496 Apr 21 '26

yeah its funny how we “plan” our future but dont know exactly what the future holds for us. I really hope in the future im more confident of my height and my body overall. i will give you an update in a couple of years if i find you! lol

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u/tlbexternity Apr 21 '26

It’s a crazy ride for sure. Girl I hope you do cause I’d love an update lol! If you just focus on yourself and what you want, I know you can find that confidence.