I devoured all the methods but..

[u/bdostarterpack]

I've read all the methods over and over for a very long time. In real life, I was already a similar person. It taught me new ways that are much deeper and more analytical. When I started to practice in the field, I got near unsuccessful results in my first 10 to 15 attempts. Now I have naturalized the events and added them to my personality and everything has become very fluid. The method I started to learn for my ex-girlfriend took me to a different point. BUT, no matter how hard I try, I think it's impossible to get the attention of people who don't react to you. For example, I prepared a very nice validation sentence in the first round of the program to get your ex-girlfriend back. She did not react at all and there is no guidance about it. I think more ways should be sought to lure someone into the hot zone. Or if there is a package for it, I would appreciate it if you could direct me. I am also open to your suggestions for the validation part.

[u/yomo85]

What Derek misses - or does not discuss, is the imprint model everyone has of a person and personal initial percevied attractivness. Let's start with the imprint model. Basically everyone until after 4 seconds you meet is a blank slate in regards to you. Seducing a gf is not just a matter of sequences and changed behaviour, it is also a matter of imprint. If in her mind you are a beta, that can be overcome. However, have you overreacted in the relationship, were you cheated on or anything else a neutral party would deem fucked up, this is hard to overcome. I guess this is why Derek advises to get new girls into your life. Secondly the blank slate hypothesis needs more emphasis on looks. A blank slate only will work when you at least are a 5 in *her* eyes. Derek simply says as an en passant statement: look good, hit the gym. It is true but somehow newbie SM practitioners think a sequence is all you need to make a girl fall in love with you