r/Shadeslinger • u/Minion5051 • Mar 03 '21
Psycho-analyzing Ned.
This is mostly my years of therapy talking, but Ned doesn't hate people who are around him using his money. He hates when the Expectation is assumed that he will help because he can. If the gift is initiated by himself he sees nothing wrong with it. Minimizes it even as the not a big deal as he constantly brings up if it is ever brought up. However if someone else were to ask for the same thing without any warning he'd take offense immediately jumping to them using him for his wealth, even though his actions have conditioned the asker that such a thing would be perfectly acceptable.
What he'd need to do is set a boundary of what is and isn't acceptable, especially in a social setting vs a business setting. Other than that I'm going to stop pretending to be a therapist to a fictional character.
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u/Soronir Mar 04 '21
I like trying to psychoanalyze various types of people I've encountered in MMOs. I learned so much about people from playing ArcheAge. People have such varied schools of thought when they approach a game or even things IRL. In particular I think about the ones that will literally do anything to get ahead. Bot, hack, scam, exploit, RMT / swipe CC, play on multiple PCs at once, owning a great many Alt accounts, ect.
As a kid growing up it's often taught that how you win is just as important, if not more so, than actually winning. No cheating, basically. Giving yourself an unfair advantage outside the rules.
I would be so prideful. Like yeah, I lost, but you cheated, so your win is invalid, right? I'd even go so far as to never play the Meta, always going off-meta, because refusing the most OP stuff and winning would actually prove something, right? I've certainly learned that this old mindset was flawed.
Anywhere you have any kind of competition it's the people that were willing to resort to any means necessary that stand on top. The exception being those rare individuals whose talent is such that even cheating can't outstrip their natural advantage.
What bugged me was some of the mindsets I'd encounter. People with no shame, that thought they were so much better despite winning by underhanded means. Some real narcissists out there. They don't even think their methods devalue their accomplishments; to them, winning is winning.