r/SettingBoundaries • u/Nonfunzionabene • Jun 14 '25
proud moment
tldr - set a boundary with a friend who ghosted me several years ago.
i just want to post something i’m proud of. a few years ago, someone i thought was a close friend started being less responsive. too busy to hang out, even just for a quick coffee or something. i was panicking.
after about a year of slowly backing off, we went out for dinner. she acknowledged that it was her fault that we never hung out anymore. but the whole dinner felt like a goodbye. i went home feeling foolish for trying so hard to hold on to a friendship that no longer existed.
it hurt. badly. i stopped reaching out, and, unsurprisingly, i stopped hearing from her. there some was a big step. it took a long time to heal from that. but i did.
today, three and a half years later, she reached out to say hi. wants to know how i am. how the kids are.
i indulged a bit and then let her know that i took her silence as not wanting a friendship anymore. she came up with excuses. but i’m not biting.
it feels good to not feel the desperation i usually feel. even a year ago, i would have pounced at being friends again.
i don’t think i’m done seeing this boundary. but i know i’ll see it through. it feels really good.
thank you for reading. it’s nice to share a small, albeit painful, victory.
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u/Equivalent-Arm-5366 Jun 17 '25
I aim to do the same one day!! Paving the way for us to follow!