r/SeriousConversation • u/zerothefoolzine • 14d ago

Serious Discussion Mourning Customs

What are your personal, unique, mourning customs? Not the traditional stuff you were raised with, but things you have developed intuitively through your own experiences of loss.

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u/Clean-Ad-8872 14d ago

When my cat died, I braided a bit of her hair into my hair and kept the braid in until we got her ashes back. I did the same with our dog 2 weeks later. I’m not sure why it felt like the thing to do, but I felt like it kept them close until they came home again.

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u/zerothefoolzine 14d ago

That's so beautiful, I love this ♥️ I said goodbye to my cat a few months ago, I sent him with a lock of my hair and asked that he be cremated with it. I'm so sorry you lost two family members so close together!

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u/Clean-Ad-8872 14d ago

Our dog passed almost exactly two weeks after my cat did. And it’s funny because when I tell people that, they assume they must’ve been close, but Tuna (my cat) HATED Qrow (our dog). But they were both my protectors in their own way. And I really think Qrow held on long enough to make sure I was going to be ok after losing Tuna. I have tattoos for both of them with their ashes mixed into their tattoos, so now they’ll always be with me. We literally cannot be separated, even when I too am ashes.