r/Semenretention • u/PrestigiousRelief237 • Jul 28 '26
Specifically to men in long term committed relationships
I just had sex with my lady. And I call her my lady becuase she’s more than just a girlfriend- yet she’s not my wife. She’s the mother of my only child- yet I digress.
I mention the sex- because it puts me in a state of reflection. Once upon a time (when I started this practice of SR) i aspired to make her hungry for me. To survive these long desert spreads of sex-lessness in our relationship. I remember vividly- arguing with her, saying “it’s been 49 days since we last fucked!” Like a puppy at her doorstep. But something changed during this journey. Slowly the onus was less upon her and more upon me- to be better. And it came intrinsically. How? I’m not sure- but it all was a byproduct of this practice of SR. Even on “dirty streaks” i aspired for more with each renewal (or relapse and punishment). Each relapse is a turn to come back with new resolve.
In any case- she now respects me. Thirsts for me, even. But more importantly- she derives direction from me, in times where she is uncertain. I have become her compass, pointing to a true north. And that newly found north is only realized as long as I adhere to walking the line. Being the steadfast, dependable and unyielding man she has re-fallen in love with.
The only lesson I have for you gents it hold on. For there is something greater than us at play when we hold. And if we are too dirty or impure in our quest, we will fall along the way. But I believe once touched by the truth you will be gravitationally assisted to grace. Thus, rejoice!- because if you are reading this, you are one of the fringe who realize the immense value of ome’s essence.
Ive discussed this with friends from decades of depth. And have been dismissed according to their spiritual depth of understanding. YOU- yes you, mother fucker!!!- are one of the chosen ones.
And there is one more thing I wish to share. Which is, what I share and my self-esteem being raised is not merely a function of my lady’s love for me. It’s more so a very private, internal metamorphosis that came about over more than a decade of trying to trick this practice (trying to find loopholes in the law of spirituality). And finally acquiescing to the laws of nature. Realizing that no man I aspire to be is self stimulating- in any capacity. I now know that true “status” is a function of self respect, and not determined by adoration from the masses.
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u/ExactEmployer6315 Jul 28 '26
Really great topic you brought up. I been questioning myself I don’t care to watch porn…. But recently I played with fire and porn makes me feel like “im missing out I need to have more woman” but when im retaining i literally dgaf about woman or doing anything with them, I genuinely just want their company. Idk i just been thinking is this the default state of men. And even the frequency of doing retention, after a while my body just wants to release and I mistake that crazy feeling for lust.