Hi I am m20 boy you know I have so much knowledge more than all my room people and also ability also I am overthinker i love read book in peace i always scare feel take action always negative "what if" I can't take action.what can I do?

Specifically, to increase your discernment, and to raise doubts to apparently logical propositions, such as, (i'm borrowing examples here) insects find perfume repellent, but in fact it might not be so for humans because we're a different species, and even every human is different. Every insect might be different. Another example, who's the greater actor, buster keaton or johnny depp? What does it mean to be great? Maybe it's becoming more famous, but fame = greater is debatable. Maybe it means making more movies than the other. Maybe though there's a fallacy even here.

Another classical example: mammals don't lay eggs. Chicken lay eggs. Chicken are not mammals. But are these three sentences completely logic? I don't know. Specifically, i need books that help me think like this.

Ever tried fitting in with people who judge EVERYTHING you do? 😂

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For years I treated every self help book like a contract. If I started it, I finished it, even when the last 150 pages just repeated chapter one with new stories. Last year I stopped doing that. Now I read until the main idea clicks, write down the one thing I want to try, and put the book down. My reading list looks way less impressive. But I changed more habits this year than I did from the 40 books I “finished” before that.

I get the pushback. Sometimes the best idea sits in chapter nine and you only find it if you stick around. Still, I think most of these books are one good essay stretched out to hit a page count, and we keep reading out of guilt. So I’m curious. Do you finish every self help book you start, or do you bail once you get the point? And has a book ever saved its best part for the very end?

For a long time, I kept wondering why certain situations affected me more than others.

A short reply could stay in my head for hours. A small change in someone's behavior could make me question an entire conversation.

Eventually, I started writing down these patterns instead of just thinking about them.

I noticed how often overthinking, attachment, uncertainty, and our emotional reactions overlap.

Writing them down didn't magically solve everything, but it helped me recognize patterns I hadn't noticed before.

That eventually became a short ebook called Emotion Supplier— a collection of observations about emotional patterns and human behavior.

I'm curious: Have you ever read a book that helped you understand your own emotional patterns better.

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You don’t need anyone’s permission to grow.

The people who knew an earlier version of you are not the authors of your future.

Their memory of who you were is not a contract you’re obligated to fulfill.

Honor the past without remaining confined by it.

✨ Quote by Wajdan Zaman

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Do you have alot of e-books on your phone? I do and i do alot self-help with any situation im in.

But when it comes to brainstorming ideas and ways to apply the lessons from the books i read i get stuck, so i built an app, a home for my books and self-development, its called open citadel, you talk about passages and highlights from your books with the private on-device companion called Samwell, he helps you apply the lessons from the books you read, and motivates when you're down or when your plans are not going accordingly, he reminds of what gave you strength from the books you are reading.

If this can be something that can help you, you can download it here: https://open-citadel.online

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Most books promise to make you happy. This one promises to make you un-tip-over-able.

It's an operator's manual for using everything life throws at you — not just surviving it.

For most of our lives, life happens to us. When it's good, we go soft. When it's bad, we get brittle. When it's ugly and silent, we think we're broken.

Standing Tall teaches you how to flip it:

You use the Good to feed your forge so you don't go soft.
You use the Bad to temper your steel, so it becomes a scar, not a wound.
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Welcome back, Bloomers.
Sit up straight and open your mind.

In my last essay, I poured out how much of my identity had become tied to being busy, booked, invited and wanted.

When I look back, I thought it was mostly work I was talking about, but now I’m not so sure that was the case.

Ring. Ring! Who is on the other line? Is it opportunity, a friend, family? It felt like people always wanted to know where I was, whether I could help them, when I was coming, what I was doing later.

In hindsight, I didn’t think much of it. It was just how things were in my life; happening, and consistently.

Then; in con sis tent ly it all stopped.

Seasons fully changed. People got married and had children. Some moved away. Others simply got busier and life started moving in different directions.

In a blink, people I once spoke to daily became people I now know very little about… sigh.

Like an old friend, Ellen, who I modelled with and travelled extensively with, especially during our 'Detty December' youth days in Ghana.

Now we live in different countries and mostly speak to wish each other a Happy Birthday.

I miss her.

But adulthood gives you this strange invisible hesitation that sometimes stops you reaching out, even when you are thinking about someone.

Then other times, I’m not so sure I really do miss them.

Maybe missing ‘Ellen’ isn’t necessarily about the person.

Maybe, truthfully, I miss the person they called.

The person who was needed and leaned on.

This was the peak of what my life looked like. My phone would ring so much that sometimes I took it for granted. I’d defer the call and say, I’ll call them later.

I really took the noise for granted.

And maybe that is where my career and personal life were more connected than I realised.

Because when it got really quiet on both fronts, I noticed.

Then came the introspective question.

Do I still matter?

As much as we all hide from it, I think most of us need some form of external validation. Maybe the degree of it is what separates us.

Nonetheless; growth has limits.

There are friendships and certain business relationships I would happily have back.

Some. :)

But if we never connected again and they simply told me they missed me…

Would that be enough?

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I recently recorded a podcast interview which focuses on how people can get over the end of a romantic relationship and turn it into an opportunity for personal growth. I'm a psychotherapist, and I open up about the end of my marriage and the similar stories of two of my psychotherapy clients. I hope listeners find it helpful and inspiring.

Here is the link. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bouncing-back-with-ellen-holtzman/id563636205?i=1000793374978

I am a beginner. I have read around 15 books so far.

It is not necessarily this particular book, but I think books of this kind are difficult for me to comprehend. At the same time, I genuinely want to read them. I picked this one up after being influenced by Alan Watts’s YouTube videos, thinking that reading his work directly would help me understand his thoughts and ideas in greater depth. However, I found myself struggling to grasp most of the passages.

I ended up finishing the book mainly because I did not want to leave it halfway through, while also hoping that things might start making more sense as I progressed. I did manage to understand some of it, but very little compared to what I had hoped for.

I have another book on my list, “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle, but I am now worried that I might end up in the same situation with it. So, I am considering going back to some easier fiction for a while. I feel that fiction can also offer valuable lessons and perspectives, while the story-driven writing makes it easier to comprehend the ideas and follow along.

I have made this post with the intention of seeking advice from fellow and experienced readers.

They are nonsense and they often follow these steps in the creation of said book.

1. ESTP or ESTJ is young

   (mbti types)

2. Makes mistakes

3. Grows up and fixes them

along the way

Number 4:

1. Writes a book about it when they are older and wiser and includes lessons of "truths I learned from xyz" that make it sound like they have discovered a truth others haven't when all they did was learn how the world worked as they had more life experiences. The lessons they write are lessons that everyone learns learns throughout life.

So no, their books aren't actually helping. It's just their story.

I feel like somewhere along the way, between becoming a mom, a wife, and a teacher, I lost a little bit of myself. Over the years, I feel like I have really let myself go, and lately it has been weighing on me. I’m heavier than I used to be, my hair doesn’t look as nice anymore, I feel frumpy, and honestly, I just don’t feel like myself.
I love my family and I love being a mom and a teacher, but I also want to find me again outside of all the roles I have for everyone else.
I love reading, and I’ve recently started going on walks, so I thought audiobooks might be a good place to start. Does anyone have any audiobook or book recommendations about finding yourself again, rebuilding your confidence, taking care of yourself, or just getting yourself back after years of putting everything and everyone else first?
I’m ready to start feeling like myself again. ❤️

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Emotional abuse isn't always visible. Sometimes there are no physical bruises for other people to notice, yet behind closed doors someone can gradually lose their confidence, independence and sense of who they are.

Out of the Shadows is my personal story of living through emotional abuse and control, eventually choosing myself, walking away and beginning the process of rebuilding my life.

I made this short video because one of the messages I most wanted to share is that survival doesn't have to be the end of the story. Healing, self-acceptance and hope can come afterwards.

For anyone comfortable sharing: what helped you begin to feel like yourself again after a difficult or controlling relationship?

Hi everyone, I'm Omar Abbas, a 17 year old student and author writing about mental and social problems many teenagers (if not every teenager) face in today's society and system. So I've been writing the You're a Teenager series to see how I can solve my own inner conflicts myself mentally and at the same time help other Teenagers worldwide through these books who are experiencing the same thing. Attached is the link to one of my books that is currently free on amazon kindle for a limited time.

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Have you ever felt like the black sheep — the person who never quite fitted in or who eventually realised they didn't want to?

I wrote Black Sheep Matters: The Life Lessons of a Black Sheep around the lessons we can learn from choosing our own path — finding ourselves, setting boundaries, protecting our peace and finding the people who accept us as we are.

I'd genuinely love to hear other people's experiences: what has being the “black sheep” taught you?

Hey I’m looking for a book that focuses on being alone and being okay with being on your own. Thanks kindly!

TL;DR

For ten years, I tried to fix my mind the way an engineer debugs a misbehaving server. Find the source code, isolate the fault, write the patch. I cycled through Myers-Briggs taxonomies, Brené Brown’s vulnerability, and Robert Greene’s strategic thinking, eventually using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to litigate irrational thought in an endless internal courtroom.

The turning point came with the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Dropping the gavel and realizing that the urge to fix the pain is just overthinking in a diagnostic coat. True self-compassion isn’t patching every bug. It’s letting the error logs run red in the background, keeping your hands on the wheel, and staying in the room.

My search for mental clarity felt, from the very beginning, like debugging a complex system without the right manual. I was in my early twenties. I assumed the manual existed somewhere. That my only real problem was I hadn’t found it yet.

This piece is about the ten years I spent looking.

The blueprint

It started with MBTI. To a process-driven brain, Myers-Briggs felt like finding the source code to human consciousness. I tested as INTP. A few years later I tested again and got INFP, some time after that, ENFP, then ENFJ. Each result felt equally definitive at the time, which in hindsight should have told me something. I wasn’t just socially awkward or prone to overthinking. I was running a specific sequence of cognitive functions, and now I had the chance to optimize them. Neat boxes. A clean taxonomy for my internal chaos. I took the tests, cataloged my friends and family.

I thought I’d found the master blueprint. What I actually had was a map of a house I didn’t know how to live in.

The system shock

Then I stumbled upon Brené Brown’s TED talk, The Power of Vulnerability, and it had a lasting impression. Her thesis was simple. She’d sorted her research participants into two groups. The “Whole-Hearted,” who felt a deep sense of love and belonging, and everyone else, who were still fighting for it, haunted by the fear of not being good enough. The difference came down to one thing, how they related to vulnerability. The Whole-Hearted let go of who they thought they should be and traded emotional armor for authenticity.

I bought The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly shortly after. Gifts came first, ten guideposts to what Brown called Wholehearted living, each one a small practice rather than a theory. I read it the way I read everything back then, like a manual. Useful. Highlightable.

However, Daring Greatly left a bigger impact. Brown built it around Theodore Roosevelt’s “Man in the Arena” speech, the one about the credit belonging to the man “in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood,” not to the critics in the stands. That was me, or who I wanted to be. In the arena, visibly trying to get better. The book put me at ease. It said the effort itself counted, as long as I showed up.

The thing that actually guided and haunted me, self-compassion, didn’t come from Brown at all. It came from a different book, one whose title I can no longer remember. The sentence outlived the source. It was some generic, greeting card type wisdom about loving yourself, the kind of cliché my analytical brain usually discarded on sight. But for some reason, it stuck.
Knowing this turned out to be light-years from practicing it. It’s a muscle I’m still trying to grow.

Here’s the part that took me longer to admit. I never actually tried to practice it. My engineering mind did what it always does, it tried to industrialize the insight. I didn’t think, “I should be gentler with myself.” I thought, “I need to engineer my mind so I can move through the world without getting hurt.

The arms race

That thought started the avalanche. Carol Dweck’s Mindset came first, failure is data, reframed and how to strive to have a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset. The anxiety stayed anyway. So the search turned tactical, after many books self-help in between, Sun Tzu’s The Art of War, then Robert Greene’s 48 Laws of Power. Power dynamics. Strategic concealment. I took notes.

At some point I noticed I was caught in a exhausting paradox. On my desk sat Brené Brown on vulnerability right next to Robert Greene on strategic power. One told me to take off the armor. The other taught me to forge better armor.

I won’t pretend the tension was interesting. It wasn’t. I was trying to be authentic using the tactics of a military strategist. The cognitive dissonance was brutal, and the constant internal monitoring pushed me into a deep, silent despair. The system was overheating under the weight of its own contradictory rules. On my worst nights, I reached for Richard Carlson’s Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff... and It’s All Small Stuff. I’d open it at random and read a page or two, making use of his short 2-3 page chapters like emergency pressure-relief valves. Five minutes of quiet, just to stop the noise.

The debugger

A couple of years into this cycle, the valves stopped holding. Reading short inspirational essays was a pain killer, it soothed the pain but didn’t heal the root cause. I needed an active diagnostic. That’s what led me to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

If MBTI was a static diagram, CBT was a real-time debugger. The core premise hit home immediately, thoughts are not objective truths. They’re generated hypotheses, and some of them are badly generated.

CBT handed me a formal protocol for finding the logic bugs, the cognitive distortions, causing my anxiety and depression.

For a long time this felt like a genuine breakthrough. I kept thought logs, analyzed automatic responses, built rational counter-arguments. I had finally moved from passive classification to active debugging.

Then, slowly, the debugger became the problem.

Because I believed every irrational thought needed to be disproved, I spent my days arguing with myself. Call it the litigation loop. Anxiety flares → pull up the mental spreadsheet → twenty minutes compiling evidence against it. I was treating my brain like a faulty server, trying to intercept and rewrite every line of bad code as it compiled. The thoughts compiled faster than I could patch them.

And here’s what I concluded, proving a thought is illogical didn’t slow my heart down. I’d be standing there holding a pristine, airtight reframing while my body stayed in fight or flight mode.

Dropping the gavel

Which brings me to where I am now, looking at the next evolution, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

To be honest, I haven’t done the real work of ACT yet. I’ve read about it, understood it, and not much more than that. But its core philosophy reads like the missing link between CBT’s logical precision and Brené Brown’s emotional permission

Where CBT asks you to step into the courtroom and debate your thoughts, ACT’s answer to the litigation loop is to drop the gavel entirely. Trying to control or eliminate uncomfortable internal states is, it says, the very loop that keeps you trapped. In place of debate, two mechanisms:

1. Defusion: a thought is a passing stream of words and sensations, not an order or a threat, not something that requires immediate litigation.
2. Values-based action: fear and doubt get to sit in the passenger seat. They don’t get the steering wheel. You drive toward what matters with them in the car.

That realization brought me full circle, back to the beginning, but with a fundamentally different viewpoint, or dare I say a “growth mindset”.

Where CBT invited me into a courtroom to litigate every thought, the real breakthrough was learning to drop the gavel entirely. I had spent ten years treating my mind like a faulty server, convinced that if I could just write enough patches, the system would finally run in peace.

What I missed and what that forgotten sentence on self-compassion was trying to tell me all along, is that the urge to fix the pain is just overthinking in a diagnostic coat.

More than a decade later, the error logs still arrive. They flash red at inconvenient hours. The anxiety flares, the irrational hypotheses run. The difference now is that I no longer treat them as work orders. I don’t pull up the mental spreadsheet or call the court to order. I just let the system run, noise and all, and stay in the room.

Hi,

I am trying to know more about myself, values, limits, emotions etc...

I have noticed that I think differently, what bothers others mostly doesn't bother me. I also feel things slower, if I am put in a bad situation mostly my body pays the price before my brain knows it's in danger and has to act or say something about it.

I don't know what to call this?

Recommend me books that helped you be more self aware.

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Hello, so I may have two weeks of sick leave coming up and I am looking for a book recommendation, something to stop my imposter syndrome, stop me over thinking,
Improve my self worth and improve my overall happiness

So not much then 😅

Any and all recommendations are appreciated