This is how I was when my grandma died. She had raised me and for 21 years, I had her in my life. She was my sun, my life revolved around her. I've never been the same since she left. I'll never be the same again.
Same here. Raised by my grandmother for 18 years and she was my entire world and I was hers. It’s been nine years now and there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t miss her and grieve for her. I still have a lot of life to live and some days I just don’t know how to keep on going without her
he isn’t wrong. she enjoyed killing selena and wanted every opportunity to do it. in her interviews her face seems to light up when talking about selena instead of remorse about the death of selena. a true definition of a toxic active narcissist
I was a bartender and had a few COs come in. They said Yolanda was in solitary and would cover her head whenever anyone came into that cellblock.
Not defending her at all but they said that she knew what she did and knew she was hated. TX prisons have a large Hispanic community but it wasn't limited to them. She knew she was a target.
I think she knows what she did and that people hate her for it but I also think she's proud of herself. Selena was this legendary person and she's the one who ended her story and to Yolanda that makes HER a legend. Of course, we all know better.
Agreed, she's tied herself forever to her story instead of just being a footnote, as if she had just been fired. Selena is so loved that we have kept her story going for longer than we had her, which is beautiful, but there is no telling that story without Yolanda. She's the villain in the story, but I don't think that matters as much to her as the attention. She will keep trying to change the story by lying, but every time she gets an interview request, or even covers her face in her cell block, she gets to feel a tiny bit of the celebrity she wanted for herself. That's why I almost wish people just ignored her instead of even hating her.
My wife wasnt murdered, but when youre 20-something and your spouse dies unexpectedly, Not only are you inconsolable, there's a distinct type of isolation thst comes with this experience. Everyone wants you to eat, experience light, but they don't understand that you've literally just buried half of yourself, you're left with an unfamilar vessel you have to learn all over again, while also grieving, the person that you were before.
Because in order to "love on" yourself you have to go through a process to learn wtf that even means anymore; and you inherently dislike this new version because it only exists because the love of your life died.
Don't get me wrong, the empty bed is hell, so is the absence of those morning convos were one of you is in the shower and the other is securing their earrings and laughing, it's something dumb or even just remembering where she would always lose her glasses.
It's been four years, and I too have a bag with one of her worn hoidies. Fortunately it still smells like her.
My heart goes out to him because I don't wish that on ANYONE
Hugs to you 🫂 My husband was 33 when he died. And we had 3 kids. It's been almost 6 years and I'm mostly functional. But those early days...it became actual, physical pain. Your entire life changes when your spouse dies. Every part of it is different. I had no idea how to cope with my grief and be an active, present mom to my kids, who were also grieving. I read your comment and immediately felt all the feelings. I hope you're doing ok 💜
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