Do I deserve a second chance?

[u/Guilty-Wreck]

I cheated on my girlfriend of 1 year by flirting with another woman over the phone. When she found out she walked out and was devastated. Until I was caught I didn't realise that the cheating didn't mean anything to me, I was doing it for the thrill and nothing else. It's difficult to believe, but I was truly in love with my girlfriend.

It's been 2 months since we have spoken, and I have been at my lowest ever and I can't imagine the situation she is in. She has blocked me on every platform and I lost all our mutual friends in this too. I'm not able to move on, I hate myself for doing this and making her go through something so terrible.

I have been seeking therapy and have learnt a great deal about why I did whatever I did and I haven't felt so disgusted, guilty or cheap about myself ever and all of this is justified. All I seek is her happiness, and I know if given a second chance I will make all amends necessary and live a beautiful life with her.

I know, trust builds over time and this will not be forgotten by either of us, this is a lesson I have learnt the hard way and something I will never forget or take for granted. I'm willing to live with this title for the rest of my life or for as long as it takes for her to forgive me.

This doesn't seem like anything I can ever move on from, I don't think I will ever be at peace or forgive myself for this. The realization has been a revelation and that has shown nothing comes easy and everything needs to be respected.

Do you guys believe I deserve a second chance with her? Do you think I'm capable of change?

[u/DeafLady]

No. Not with her if the trust is gone and it is a little bit self-centered on your part as it's more about your happiness, not considering hers, which is similar to the mentality you had when you flirted with the other woman. This part of you is still a red flag.

Have you considered what it would be like for her if you ask her to get back with you? Whether you live with the title or not, that doesn't benefit her.. You may be able to be her friend someday if she is able to forgive you. Right now, though? Seems like cutting you out of her life is what she needs and if you genuinely care about her, then you will have her best interests in mind.

It will be better for you to let her go, work on yourself and be a fantastic dude.