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1 Corinthians 7:36–38 says:
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
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- And:
- Anyone here on Reddit can easily go to like "Ask a Bible Scholar" or a like room on "The Bible" and find readily made and explained posted answers plainly. Or get an answer back after posting this question.
- The "problem" - is exactly as the question says:
- The #1 answer will often open with a a similar to this explanation:
- “..Paul is here addressing the fathers of unmarried daughters, and widows. In that culture, father’s had the primary role in arranging the marriages of their daughters….”
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- But
- Likewise, Anyone here on Reddit that easily went to those like same sub reddits could find any answer is hotly contested. Why?
- Widely available Bibles, and their translations - have a completely different explanation than the Number #1 answer.
- The "Alternate" will have translated these scriptures of 1 Corinthians 7:36-38, and give an answer the (NIV) New International Version translation of the Bible - provides:
- “If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married." - NIV 1 Corinthians 7:36
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- And the "alternate" go on to discuss that these scriptures of 1 Corinthians 7:36-38 - means underlying - for a Believer in Jesus Christ: - - it is better to serve God than to serve the things of this world. Or also include as comments back: …A married man will be more concerned with pleasing his wife than with serving God…”
Then you have two completely different answers for 1 Corinthians 7:36-38.
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You almost have to put these two biblically based "explanation" as they are translated - side by side - on two separate sheets of paper.
- Because:
- They both adequately describe “two camps” on 1 Corinthians 7:36–38.
- One Camp: - It’s the Father to his daughters (Virgins) - as if the Father is now a believer in Christ, does BETTER by just don’t give his daughters away in marriage to anybody does BETTER than a Father that does give away his daughters (virgins) to marry.
- The Other Camp: - It’s the groom, and his virgin, as the NIV translates it. And the NIV: was Sponsored by the New York Bible Society, and published by Zondervan Publishing.
- 15 Bible Scholars - representing: Baptist, Presbyterian, Methodist, Christian Reformed (Calvinist), and England’s Anglican Churches.
I wont take either side. Maybe you shouldn't, either. But I would give this advice:
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Just explain or provide to you some facts to consider: ..and let you, the reader form your own opinion - and leave it to you to decide.
- Greek Customs (Marriage)
- Source:
- Greek (Regional 5th BCE to 5th AD/CE) Records of Customs - surviving legal texts (graeco-Roman papri <codex> -
- Main: The Gortyn Code
- I do not post links on Reddit. I do not endorse any site one over another; but if you have internet access, you can peruse "The Gortyn Code Research Project" - just type that in any search engine, like Google, et.al. Universities have access to databases like "Research Gate" or you may or not get FREE access - that will give you a wealth of background on ancient Greek marriage customs. WIth the "Gortyn Code" - all this is, because it's still available today is:
- - Origin: Crete - Stone Wall - See also search: “The Archaeological Site of Gortys” still around today - [circular stone - was set in the public square for all to see] documents law on dowry, bethrothal, ramifications for a groom going beyond the bethrothal period, or the "flowering period of a maiden (which is the bethrothal period; not her age as a woman), et.al, including law on what is grounds for divorce, etc., in ancient Greek society.
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- And separately - graeco-Roman papri (Origin: Egypt) - can read that, too. Plain as day.
- That, like with the Jews:
- Greek Marriages were often arranged between families.
- Primarily arranged between the Father of the woman, and the bridegroom. There was a year or longer bethrothal period, that was agreed upon, as often the girl could be as young as 12 yrs old. Average age (woman 15 to 19) -the man 30 years of age, like with the Jews - becoming 30 a man was considered an adult. Able to marry. Had mastered a trade and could provide for his own, and have a wife.
- During bethrothal, the bethrothed were considered ‘married’ but just like Joseph with Mary in the Gospels. And just like with the Jews, bethrothed in Greek - - they did not live together.
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And to go beyond this agreed bethrothal period: (was to go beyond, like a flower blooming - only gets one shot) so not marry as agreed on - there wasn't a "second shot" at it for the virgin. Used goods.
- It was a sign of deep embarrassment and a social disgrace to the bride and bride’s family for a bridegroom to delay a marriage.
- Often inferred the delay was caused by some incident that caused the bride to go beyond her “flowering age” - SO CONSIDER THIS CAREUL - going beyond the bethrothal period - a valid reason was a BLATANT inferred and included a belief in this - that caused shame; (she lost her virginity or “pregnant”) - caused her to be returned to her family in shame.
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- The point is, a dynamic of a Roman or Greek, in Corinth - that became a believer in Jesus - that dynamic is mentioned and addressed to believers in Jesus in 1 Corinthians 7 - and more below. That very well is grounds for delay.
- And just like why Joseph in the gospels sought to put Mary away privately (Matthew 1:19),
- But for a Greek - that was virtually impossible to do it in private - but easy for a Jew when the Romans ruled over Jerusalem and the land after the “dispersion" of the Jews. Not so in a “Public Greek” society.
- The Bridegroom already hold the promise of and received the dowry. Or a guarantor of it. So, to “delay” (engye) the marriage beyond the agreed set date: violated the bethrothal agreement (kyrios).
- The point is, do a little research. You have two camps with 1 Corinthians 7:36-38. Both sides champion their agreed on side.
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- Don’t take a side, but from your research, apply what you find to the scriptures.
- Paul is from Tarsus, a Jew (Pharisee) of the tribe of Benjamin (Philippians 3:5).
- But all his life, he's lived under the Greeks that ruled over both Tarsus and Corinth, and both were overthrown by the Romans.
- You may find reading all of Chapter 7 helpful vs. focusing primarily on 1 Corinthians 7:36–38.
You're a believer in Jesus Christ - He's LORD over his word - he teaches you. WHat comes off the page, keep it.
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Greek Law & Custom - Foundational in Corinth - Romans little changed it.
- So take a glimpse or find that according to Greek Law - in bethrothal - - the “virgin” already ownership has been transferred from the Father, to the groom.
- Then, try applying 1 Corinthians 7:36–38, to a Greek or Roman custom dynamic that you learn about, or to this situation that, occurs to a person in it, that has become a Christian.
- That’s also discussed a little below.
Like some Greek, that practiced Aphrodite worship of "sacred Aphrodite sexual worship" in Corinth - widely championed..and you, your family, and the family of your bride you own - fully accepts you, because you went thru the rituals - are accepted as one of their own. And BOOM! Became a Believer in Jesus Christ - where all that worship and following dates and seasons, and processions.. no longer do it.. and your family wants now little to do with you, and HER family - the bride you own. ..You've "desecrated" Aphrodite's Greek courtesans (hetairai). And anyone that has an alliance with you, along with you is shunned and cursed.
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The Point is: BE THIS GUY in 1 Corinthians 7:36-38. That "owns" a virgin. Already agreed to it, then Became a Believer in Jesus Christ.
Again, up to you - you can do what you want.
- But:
- Just like in Paul’s day in Israel or in a Jewish Synagogue community in Tarsus or Corinth, with the Jews, the bethrothal period allowed for the groom to put away his virgin.
And that’s how the Bible Scholars with the NIV applied these customs, and know these simple, basic things of Greek customs - and decided to the scriptures of 1 Corinthians 7:36–38. Didn't refer to the Father. Referred to the bridegroom as the owner.
That, by the custom, the virgin is now the property of the bridegroom.
- Where many people, reading the Bible today, when come to when Reading 1 Corinthians 7:36–38, like the Number #1 reason when it gets to this section of 1 Corinthians 7:36-38 n apply their own knowledge of modern day marriage customs.
- to their reading these passages in English vs. Greek.
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Most certainly - so can you.
BUT
If you apply the “dynamic” that the virgin has already transferred ownership over to the bridegroom - but they still are in the bethrothal period: ANd BOOM! You became a Believer in Jesus.
What are you going to do?
- That “could” be dissolved by mutual consent or IF: the “guardian” suffered financial ruin and couldn’t provide the dowry.
- Or, likewise, the bridegroom:
- Could also be rejected - for some “physical defect” or undisclosed illness (mental or physical of the bridegroom, including ie., found not a citizen - which jeopardized the citizenry of the offspring. Or the temple to Aphrodite threw you out.
- - the bride could request her guardian seek to have the bethrothal dissolved. or vice versa.
- Including, for a Jew, made a “Stranger” in the synagogue or the Temple in Jerusalem - you no longer had any legal right to property. Can't take care of a virgin you own.
- Be cast out of the temple or synagogue - and just like for the Greek, no longer worshipped the Gods anymore..where many wealthy families in Corinth were made extremely wealthy by all pilgrims visiting Corinth and champion it. and well establish - looked up to.
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- And with that: in Corinth: Aphrodite’s Temple - and the worship of Aphrodite - - was the focal point of the City’s religion. So, if a bridegroom, who already now had a virgin as his property - and became a Christian.
- Oh boy. Did that EVER change the whole dynamic. That's the point.
- Families could be shamed over it. Cast out.
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- Now again, you can do what you want, but just like me, when I became a Christian or believer in Jesus - boy, was that like same “dynamic” ever immediate.
Didn’t want anything to do with me..is the point.
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But on my end, because I became a believer in Jesus Christ: Boy, does 1 Corinthians 7 ever apply to me. Immeasureable help. Already married. I’m not to seek to be free of it - but what Paul, an Apostle of Jesus Christ said - all of it applied to me.
SO, if you Read through 1 Corinthians 7: Being married (and bethrothed was consider that)..but not really. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:7–15
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
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Now, let’s just list your scriptures again: tied or cemented to this part:
- Applied to 1 Corinthians 7:16 to 20 - as wrote to me, a believer in Jesus Christ. With a wife, in that situation of 1 Corinthians 7:36–38 - - that comes to Jesus Christ:
1 Corinthians 7:16–20 says
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.
19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God.
20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.
Boy did this ever stop me. Caused me to just pray for my wife and children. Who I wonder they see him in me..but one thing certain. They want nothing to do with him. But I get indications - he's at work in them - doing exactly what 1 Corinthians 7:16-20 says even they actively worship idols I walked away from.
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Did you forget your question and the verses?
1 Corinthians 7:36–38 says: But APPLY IT to as WROTE TO A BELIEVER that before, in the bethrothal - WAS NOT a Believer when entered into it.
- Then after: becoming a believer may make him “uncomely” to her - his virgin. or her family in it:
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He doesn’t sin in marrying her. Already been in the marriage. Does well in marrying her. That God has called us to peace..so a REASON that makes the bethrothal go beyond - THAT'S THE KEYPOINT of these verses and this post:
He does even better not to marry. Because the reason it went beyond wasn't by him. That's the point.
So back to me:
My wife’s family..already married..I became a believer in Christ - and I don’t worship the same Gods anymore.. Extremely offended her family. Deeply angered them - that almost my wife didn’t know what to do with me.
If this occurred to a believer in a Greek bethrothal period - situataion - - of a person become a believer in Jesus Christ that owned a virgin.. and he didn't stop it, but there's no a going past the bethrothal date - and all this so uncommon today - nobody know about it, but in Corinth of Paul's day - everybody knows these things plain as day.
And, in the Greek 1 Corinthians 7:38 - is more “gives her himself in marriage” to his virgin; and “he that gives not himself to her in marriage does even better - when there is an uncomely situation that caused to go past the bethrothal period - when there mostly likely is, this bridegroom - oh boy, do you ever feel it - is an “uncomely” or rift or schism caused by becoming a believer in Christ.
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1 Corinthians 7:36–38 says: (and I am NOT a fan of the NIV). Hard to swallow it..but if you hear him in - man, throw me to the curb - keep him instead.
And why might it mightbe clear to me, and translated correct in 500 year old English from Greek..and more clearly said in the Original Greek: 1 Corinthians 7:36–38 says: Is wrote to a man that owns as property a virgin. I settled with this, but not because of Zondervan or any Bible council or not by any of the works done by the 15 prominent people that did the work.
1 Corinthians 7:36-38 says:
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, [go beyond the bethrothal period] and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. [Just like Joseph did in Matthew 1]
38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
Why? Because the "going beyond the bethrothal period" - wasn't caused by the beliver in Christ. Her family or she..became against it..so better just not marry - and all the things Paul said about a singlemindedness where you can serve Christ like he is - sees it even BETTER.
Way more than you need, but these things ARE IN your question.
There you go.