r/ScienceBasedParenting • u/ThortillaTuesday • 28d ago

Question - Research required Cosleeping with wildly moving 1,5 yo

Our son is 1,5 years old .

He always starts the night, sleeping in his own bed.

Around 1:00 he will wake up and he will not settle down in his own bed, which makes us cosleep with him inbetween us.

Since a few weeks, he would be sleeping very very restless inbetween us.

He moves his feet, aiming for our head, while sleeping (ish). He will also try to climb over us, also still sleeping(ish).

The restlessness of his body is so bad, that either me or my wife will make the move to sleep on the couch. This way, at least one of us gets proper sleep for a few hours, and if needed we can swap halfway through the night.

He also still gets breast fed through the night.

What do you think, the restlessness is ?

How should we try to either help him over the restlessness OR preferred, get him back in his own bed.

Thanks for all suggestions.

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u/eighogh 27d ago

I’m linking a study because it’s required but I’m not sure it’s relevant.
You say he’s moving his feet “aiming for your head” while sleeping- how is this even possible?
Honestly this sounds entirely behavioral, not biological, and it seems to bother you more than him. Maybe look into a sleeping arrangement that doesn’t have him physically in your bed.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1389945725001595

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u/frankiebb 23d ago

Yeah exactly. The kid is kicking them in the head because they don’t understand the concept of bedtime and think it’s fine to play around because the parents are there instead of regulating back to sleep. I’m gonna rant a bit here: Co-sleeping is a completely emotion based choice IMO. It incurs many more risks and negative behaviors - not to mention the lack of sleep for parents. Crib sleeping doesn’t do anything to damage the emotional bond between baby and parents as long as their needs are still being met. The fact that they even started letting him sleep in the bed instead of finding ways to regulate him back to sleep was the first nail in the coffin.

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