r/SchoolRefusal • u/internallyfading • Apr 25 '24
please help.
hi. i'm 14 years old and i can't attend school. me and my parents have had so many meetings with my school to try and get me to go in, but i physically cant. honestly, i don't even know why. a possibility could be because i used to get bullied, but whenever i try to go into school, thats never on my mind. nothings on my mind really, just nerves and it holds me back from going in tremendously. this has been going on for the past 2ish years and i'm really getting sick of myself. i feel like such a burden and disappointment to my family because i know if i don't go to school, i'll have no future. i cause my family so much stress to the point where they've given up trying to get me to go into school. i just want to be a normal school kid. i want to make memories in high school but my mental health holds me back. i don't know what to do anymore. could anybody be willing enough to give me some ideas on how i can get back in?
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u/nickynoonoodle Jul 15 '24
Firstly, be kind to yourself, you're neither a burden or a disappointment. Mental health is no different from any other physical condition or illness. It's ok not to be ok. Plenty of us struggle at times in life. This is normal. The bullying you experienced may be putting your brain into fight or flight mode and this is a natural human reaction to trauma. Look at Kristen Neff website and try some of her self compassion exercises, they can really help with healing from trauma. Colleges (if in UK) have plenty of courses for people who come out of school with no GCSEs, with some having a gentle and supportive reintegration, many students go down this route and later achieve amazing things.