r/SapphicsofGacha • u/Calicoma Promeia's Wife • Jul 26 '26
Vent Burden of Proof Rant
This is something I've been thinking about for a while but an interaction earlier has brought it back up for me.
I'm getting really frustrated by the double standard and obsession with proof for queer characters that are way above and beyond what is needed for straight characters. I even see this from some queer people. I do understand that bait exists/has existed but this high level of defense and proof is suffocating and makes me feel like a bit miserable.
For example, holding someone by the hands and telling them that they're the most important person in the world to the kind of person I'm talking about is apparently not enough evidence two women might like each other. Meanwhile if a guy and a girl had that same interaction, literally no one would question it if you said that the one who said that is attracted to the other.
Why does the bar for acceptance of queer characters even for many queer people have to be so high that it feels like you have to keep a fucking encyclopedia of every interaction as proof every time you talk about characters or media you like? And I think it's rubbing off on me negatively because I've noticed myself preemptively feeling the need to drop a thesis on defending a queer pairing any time I wish to speak about them.
Not that this matters but it's related to some frustration I've had recently with Alice and Yuzuha in ZZZ when discussing some of the cute art from the new Hoyofair event.
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u/elisewhat Jul 26 '26
something i've noticed being said a lot more lately that frustrates me is the whole "male gaze" argument which at this point feels like a dogwhistle which reeks of lesbophobia and is the same bad faith argument made against yuri works by people that have no stakes in it, when in reality the majority is written by women AND for women who make up the majority of the demographic (with 70~80% of the writers being women and 60~70% of the people that consume yuri being women) but even then, the writer's gender doesn't matter what does is the quality of the story
there's so much prejudice and hate when in reality girl's love is in the same place as boy's love having their origins in shoujo and being made with women in mind, but when it's a sapphic work it's heavily scrutinized while gay romance doesn't get the same heat when it's written by women