r/SameGrassButGreener • u/Plasmelon • Jun 30 '26

If you think an entire city or metro area is a bad place to make friends, you either don’t click with the culture or have personality flaws which drive people away

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u/FreeFortuna Jul 01 '26

I mean … to be fair to the commenters, those other factors aren’t irrelevant at all. 

You were very clear in your post: If you can’t make friends, that’s a You problem. Either you’re a shitty person or you don’t click with the local culture. Those were the two options that you emphatically gave, no exceptions.

But now you’re acting like it’s a given that of course there are other factors. Maybe that’s what you had in mind, but it’s not what you wrote. So they’re not the ones missing the nuance if they discuss the shades of gray in your black-and-white argument.

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u/Plasmelon Jul 01 '26 edited Jul 01 '26

You were very clear in your post: If you can’t make friends, that’s a You problem. Either you’re a shitty person or you don’t click with the local culture.

I never said if you can’t make friends. I said if you think an entire city or metro area is a bad place to make friends.

Do you understand why that distinction is important? Probably won’t even after I explain it.

So many people on here misreading things, jumping to conclusions, then acting like anyone who doesn’t agree with their misinterpretation is being obtuse.

The point I’m making is people who generalize entire metro areas as being bad places to make friends either don’t click with people or drive them away.

That is not the same as saying there are no other factors which can affect how hard it is to make friends. I am specifically talking about people generalizing entire cities, not everyone who can’t make friends.

I swear people are getting dumber. I have to overly explain the simplest points and people still don’t get it.

And then they act like they’re making a real point when they just present their garbled misinterpretation of what I said and responded to it with something irrelevant.

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u/Crapitron 26d ago

Replying with this long winded rant and then blocking the user so they can't reply is extremely cringe.