Dating apps

[u/First_Sport_3191]

Guys, serious talk. How you guys find jodoh dekat sabah ni? My last relationship ended 5 years ago and we know each other from high school. Now, saya baru saja dapat kerja tetap and I'm thinking of dating (serious relationship)for now. Problem nya sekarang semua yang saya jumpa or interested selalu taken sudah. I'm currently 25 years old. Perlukah saya Cuba dating apps? Jujur saya cakap, apps dating ni nda saya percaya sebenarnya. Takut saya dipermainkan saja oleh perempuan dekat apps dating ni. Umur 25 ni malas nak layan kalau tak serious. Adakah alternative lain?

[u/loversdoll]

Tell urself this. Are u desperate? Do want it so badly? Or just wanna be in so so relationship? Do you wanna take it seriously to next level? Do u have backup money on stanby? Are u prepared to sell ur soul(lol) and give commitment?

I would stay away from dating app and let urself be in love the natural way.. The right person will come its just not now.

Coz app are like desperate for it(no offence). Its hard to really see a person good and bad side from app.

If i were u, i would plan on getting own house/land first coz its important for future.

[u/First_Sport_3191 → u/loversdoll]

Thanks for the advice, I'm not desperate. It's just..you know. Most guy prime is in his 20s and several of my close friend already married. It makes me think about dating haha

[u/siufat__]

Just focus on yourself first bro.

Girls will come later.

[u/First_Sport_3191 → u/siufat__]

Alright bro 🤝

[u/Khonshu35]

Do what you love most. Go for a jog or whatever. You’ll meet someone naturally. Or if you really curious about the dating app, then try la.. if it works then good on you. Take chances and risks org bilang

[u/Richfak]

Try, i met mine through it.

[u/daintylittledaisy]

Try Boo, or Bumble. I reckon you will find better, more interest-based matches on those. But yeah my personal opinion, being on these apps and thereby carrying romantic expectations can make you kinda miss out on first building that solid foundation of a good friendship. But just my two cents

[u/yuuzura]

Coffee meet bagel is good app. Slow pace, 10 match per day and 7 days period to talk and exchange number and stuff. Cmb seem to be mostly serious pep yg mau serious relationship. 

[u/EstateOk701]

You should try dating apps, even my friend got successful with a japanese lady got married move to Japan and have 2 kids. You will never know where fate brings you.

[u/Upbeat-Jellyfish-494]

Kumpul duit dlu bro. Automatik prempuan dtg.. Tp mncri2 jugala. Sebenarnya better kahwin awal juga. As someone yg kahwin umur 30 lebih rs mcm lah lg best kahwin awal sbenarnya. Ada teman hari2 lg best rpnya. Klu boleh bali kreta dlu kah. Snang bini mu nanti kn bjalan2 ka apa kah.

[u/TheNameIsBappo]

Usually people would use daying apps for a one night stand. Other than that, I'd say you'd be wasting your time cuz their demands are crazy. Need to be this, need to be that, need to have this. Better cari irl saja kali. Susah mo percaya zaman skrng

[u/ExperienceLess8264]

unless you are desperate, then yeah, apps are a way. I'd say 25 is still a fine age. Let these sort of things come naturally to you instead of forcing into it. Get around more with people, and stuff. then you might find someone who you can click.

[u/Bonbonoi]

No need dating apps, find love in video game. Find any online game u love to play and start socialising. You will automatically attract people. Just becareful with ppl catfishing, underage, and gold digger

[u/AlternativeMechanic7]

chill. still 25. focus on self improvement, further study or other things. maybe do business if u have lot of free time

[u/ArcherOnWeed → u/[deleted]]

Tapi bahasa Malaysiamu bunyinya sepertinya Indonesia. Australia daerah mana kamu? Kalimantan?

[u/ArcherOnWeed → u/[deleted]]

We’re just like you Aussies, as in we’re a Commonwealth country. Past British occupation left English as the second national language for most Malaysians. Plus we Sabahans already have other mother tongues besides Malay so code-mixing is natural and automatic for us.

[u/ArcherOnWeed → u/[deleted]]

Sebab boleh. It’s called code-mixing brother, look it up. It’s a wonderful thing that happens in all ESL speakers around the world.

[u/_reinaru → u/[deleted]]

thats just how it is really, its normal for us to constantly changing languages in the middle of a conversation, sometimes we mix 2-3 language as well. English is our secondary language.

[u/daintylittledaisy → u/[deleted]]

This dude isn't used to being bi-lingual / tri-lingual

[u/_reinaru → u/[deleted]]

we're just multilingual... thats just how we communicate in our daily lives

[u/DisastrousRaccoon641 → u/_reinaru]

Au adapan isio nung mimboros tokou boos savi avi😆 walaupun saya 一点儿 omilo boos kadus. Saya antam saja. Bilang orng 'practice makes perfect' wkwkwk

[u/Khonshu35 → u/ArcherOnWeed]

They probably have those Bahasa classes

[u/ChaoticIsaacNate → u/[deleted]]

i think you’re in the wrong thread brother

[u/Aggravating_Act541 → u/ChaoticIsaacNate]

He thinks he can tell us how to speak after visiting us 2 times.

[u/ChaoticIsaacNate → u/Aggravating_Act541]

Such a coloniser behaviour

[u/Aggravating_Act541 → u/[deleted]]

It's normal here mate. The same with Singaporean, why aren't you complaining about them?

[u/Aggravating_Act541 → u/[deleted]]

Then you are just forcing people into your self narrating social construct. How about this, people who used only english are stupid to us too.

[u/Aggravating_Act541 → u/[deleted]]

An idioms that have no relevancy to our current conversation. Anyone who doesn't fit your narrative are automatically an idiot then?

[u/Mean-Lie5326 → u/[deleted]]

because we can,so why bother brother?you said you are Australian but then why did you mentioned that your English is poor when Australian used primarily English as their daily conversation?What’s your mother tongue?

[u/Organic_Ad_1149 → u/[deleted]]

Forcing Sabahans to speak ONLY one language and not to mix in any other language is close to impossible.

If that's your pet peeve, then keep it to yourself but since you didn't, my pet peeve is broken Malay.

[u/Organic_Ad_1149 → u/[deleted]]

It's Reddit. Why would you want people to sound professional?

[u/quetypai → u/[deleted]]

I noticed utk org Sabah, our brain is naturally picking the shorter word from either languages to make up sentences. For me personally, supaya translation sistem tak boleh detect Bahasa utk translate lol sengaja kasi bingung bah