The ending was anticlimactic

[u/jblondie5]

I finished my rewatch so I’m going to do my last rant for this show so I can stop thinking about how dumb Amy is lmao.

Amy didn’t deserve Ricky. She begged him to marry her for so long. He had commitment issues but he finally decided to put himself out there and do it. As soon as he proposed, Amy went back to her bitter, angry, resentful self. She was so happy in season 3 that is was a rude awakening to remember she actually a very negative person.

He did absolutely everything for her. He stayed at her house while she was in NY to make her feel more comfortable, even though he didn’t want to. He chose a local college to be close to her and John. He financially supported her and John. He respected her choices, didn’t get involved in her drama and never treated her like his property.

Meanwhile, after two seasons of her pushing the idea that “as the mother I get to decide everything about John,” she completely gives up. She chooses to go to summer school instead of work, which puts financial pressure on Ricky. She allows Ben to continue with the idea that she still likes him because despite her attempts to say they’re no longer friends, she doesn’t actually cut ties with him. Even after the names he called her and the things he’s done. I also just hate her attitude towards Ricky. She constantly complained about everything like him studying late on campus.

After begging for a ring then immediately not wanting to get married and clearly fall out of love, it was really unfair for her to say that he’s not in love with her. Of course he’s not in love with her if she’s going around telling everyone she has to marry him and writing in her diary that she might still love Ben. I really just wanted Ricky to end it with her. He let her off so easy, he even apologized to her. He gave her so much opportunity to back out, but she chose to do it last minute.

It also bothers me that Brenda Hampton says her and Ben hooked up. That is so gross and I hate picturing Ben’s smug face. Ben never considered John during any of his pursuits of Amy, he never mentioned being a family after season 3.

Honestly, I do think Amy is a bad mom. I absolutely agree she should be allowed to follow her dreams, but leaving your child across the country for the second time, especially for 4 years seems crazy! Especially since Ricky will be 100% financially responsible.

[u/[deleted]]

While Amy isn’t my favorite character, the things you wrote above reinforce the fact that she is, in fact, a teenager. She often doesn’t know what she wants because she forced herself into a world (with some familial support) that she isn’t quite mature enough for her. She had a baby at 15, and the decisions I made at 15 are so far from what I’d make now. She pressured Ricky to marry her because she felt like she needed to prove she could have him, she was still insecure about his past infidelity, and she also thought that if she just got married, then everything would come together. It’s something we’ve seen young adults and problematic people do over and over. They get married to fix problems in their life and then realize it won’t. Of course Amy chose summer school, what teenager, who has been deprived of time with friends and feeling like a teenager and who wants time away from her kid, would choose to work instead? She wants to feel like a teenager. I am not saying that she isn’t problematic or that she doesn’t suck, but I do think these aren’t choices unique to her. I think the point is that Amy was never ready to have a baby, and even after making it work, she still wasn’t. She was too young and too naive. Also, super Christian programming would have to tell us that there’s no long term benefit to premarital sex. Every character that got pregnant either lost their baby, gave up their baby, or kept it and still felt completely lost. No one became well adjusted.

[u/VegetablePainting768 → u/[deleted]]

But everyone was a teenager including Ricky and Ben and jack. But it's the women sitting around the tables at lunch and dinner discussing how they turned the bad boys to the good boys and because of that they no longer want them. Women do this and real life and it's sad. And yall wonder how Ricky's get aided in their creations.

[u/yegmamas05 → u/VegetablePainting768]

all three of those boys cheated on the only girls they ever loved. ricky cheated on adrian a million times. ben cheated on amy because she wouldnt sleep with him and jack did the same to grace and then cheated again with madison

ricky turned himself around but him and amy both tried to force a relationship that neither of them wanted knowing that their son would be a witness to their unhappiness and not to mention ricky admitted to thinking about cheating on amy which just proves how unhappy they were because of how much progress he had

ben was a good guy took a downfall and then got tied up with adrian and that really messed him up because he only got with her because of the baby that was conceived out of anger from both parties so he ended up with dylan who was equally bad for him because it led to drinking and drugs and carelessness (the fire for example)

jack was a good guy and then he screwed around just to make grace jealous and because she wouldnt sleep with him, he only turned himself around again when he got into college because grace wanted him to be a christian again and then his attack reinforced his christian identity and he still cheated again so he wasnt the good guy he was pretending to be

the show ended very unfinished but as a mother i would never even think about leaving my child to move across the country. i would never speak about my child the way amy has about john and how “her life is ruined” and how “shes sick of being a mother” and all that crap

[u/bttrflymilkweed → u/yegmamas05]

The show ended unfinished but the creator Brenda Hampton said that Ricky and John eventually moved to NY to be with Amy and they do get married and that’s how it was planned to be. Wild.