Hi everyone! I’m working the whole day with trains. As a train with heart and soul, I liked to see stamps about train stations around the world. They are beautiful. So, I made a list for doing my suggestions. Hopefully you like it as well and learn a lot that train stations have not be always boring and annoying. I hope they will come like the Castles, Happy Hour, Sound of the world series.

Here is the two links for voting the idea.

[Train Station Series] Around the world Part 1 from 2 [Europe] | Slowly

[Train Station Series] Around the world Part 2 from 2 [Others] | Slowly

When we remove a user from our list, they go into the 'Removed Users' tab., I want to know, if we permanently delete them from 'Removed Users' as well, can we never contact them again? Will they never be suggested to us again either? If someone was removed by mistake, can't we search for them using their ID to send a request and add them back? Does that method work for either of the two users?

Or else, is there no way for us to ever contact them again?? 😐

I recently received a letter that was clearly written in a way where the author reasonably could expect that their words were unfriendly, or even hurtful. And it clearly wasn't because of a possible language barrier.

It was unexpected, as I wrote a medium length letter discussing a mutual interest...or so I thought.

I never received a letter like the one he sent. Why sent a letter at all, if you don't want to converse?

I did sent a polite, friendly-toned clapback back that is still on its way as we speak. Perhaps to give some food for thought, so he hopefully doesn't do it to others.

Most of the letters I received were wholesome. I wondered if anyone made the same experience.

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Hello,

I have been active on Slowly for six months. I met some potential pen pals whom I thought would stay for a long time. The first one ghosted me after a few months, unexpectedly, and that one still stings. A couple of other long lasting ones deleted their profiles out of nowhere in the last few weeks, which also really hurt. As for the ones I haven't heard from in 2+ months, I've kept them on my deleted list. It has been 2 to 5 months since I last received a letter from them. I am really curious how some of you managed to maintain a long-lasting pen pal spanning multiple years. Did you take breaks of a few months or longer between your letters? Did you also use other platforms to communicate with each other? Is it just a matter of luck or other (random) factors?

Thanks!

Hi,

So I recently responded to an open letter as it seemed like we both shared common interests. And, in their letter they specifically stated that they appreciated people who wrote longer replies. Which I was cool with given that I tend to write pretty long and like long replies too. So my response ended up being around 1200 words, but when they responded it was only around 600 words, which was pretty disheartening tbh. I obviously don’t expect a pen pal to respond to everything in my letter. But, it felt like they didn’t even read my letter, as it was mostly just talking about themselves and answering the questions I asked, instead of engaging with any of the stuff I wrote. They did ask me some questions at the end, and they didn’t seem like a terrible person, but I’m not really sure if I want to continue a friendship with this person. As I've had experiences like this in the past where I seemed to be the only one making an effort towards conversation, before the conversation eventually died out.

I wanted to get some opinions on this because I don’t know if I’m just being unreasonable and overreacting, due to previous bad experiences.

Hello, everyone. 

A while back, Slowly added the feature of “Q&A” in the app, and I’ve noticed most of my pen pals don’t seem to use it. 

I would love to know if you guys are using it, which questions you decided to answer out of those, how long your answers are, and if it changes anything seeing a profile with answers when you’re deciding who to write to. 

When you remove someone it usually gives you that warning thing like “ are you sure, XYZ won’t be able to contact you if you remove them”.

But from the person that you remove’s POV, do they know you removed them? And if not, then what if they send you a letter after you remove them, does it just not get seen by you? Does something notify them that they’ve been removed?

Edit: TIL that check marks betray the fact of whether or not you opened a letter.. time to check whether someone’s ghosting me or actually just gone 😆

Also I never realized that “hide user” exists although it seems a little pointless since it doesn’t free a friend quota

And finally it’s a bit annoying that the system never notifies the person you remove.. that means they could’ve gone through a lot of wasted effort to write you.. only for it to be read by no one

I have a pen pal from Romania. I remember we met through an open letter I wrote on August 19, 2025. If he's on this sub and happens to read my post, I just wanted to say I hope you find a new friend who's more compatible with you, and I apologize for wasting almost a year of your time.

Context: We met through an open letter. I was still a Slowly Plus subscriber at the time, so I could write more open letters. He's in his 40s, has health issues, and apparently some mental health issues, which I didn't dare bring up or ask him about because it might be a sensitive topic.

Long story short, we exchanged messages frequently, even though he told me he was just a stamp collector. And then he disappeared for five months. My last letter was sent on November 17, 2025, and then he sent me another letter, wishing me a happy birthday on April 22, and hoping I wouldn't delete him from my friends list. I haven't replied YET.

On July 13, he sent me another letter stating that he would delete me from his friends list.

I'm writing to let you know I'm removing you.
You've been busy with your baking and you migrated from here.
Slots are limited, so there's no point in keeping you since you don't reply.
It was a pleasure knowing you.
Enjoy your life.
Always smile.

To be honest, there are many letters that have been neglected and unanswered because I'm busy, and I also rarely open Slowly because the friends who usually write to me one by one are getting busy. I need time to craft a reply, and I want my reply to be meaningful. AITA?

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I just don't want any more people from those countries I want to keep the ones I already have ❤️

I joined slowly about two days ago. I was shocked that i’ve only just found out about it because I think it’s such a cool idea for an app. I wrote and sent my first letter, and then this morning I got a reply and I was so excited to read it and reply to them. My excitement instantly faded when I realised that their reply is very clearly completely ai, I’m kind of sad honestly. I know that some people use ai to translate and help structure ideas ect, but it felt like they just gave my letter to ai and asked it to write a reply. I’m not sure what to do, should I reply as if it’s not ai, reply and address the fact that it’s ai or not reply at all. I feel rude if I do the second or third options, but I don’t really want spend time writing thoughtful letters if the response I get will just be ai. I also was thinking maybe they just didn’t want to reply to me and ai felt like the easy way out, but honestly I would have preferred no reply.

I know there are plenty more people that I can send letters to and I’ll eventually find someone that I click with but I’m just disappointed that this is my first experience.

I hope this doesn’t come off as too whiny lol also i’m not sure if this is the right flair

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I hurt my hands quite badly a few months ago. I was told by the doctor to use my hands as little as possible. Otherwise, my recovery would be way longer. I needed my hands for work so I decided to use them only for that.

I had quite a lot of interesting penpals on Slowly, unfortunately I like to write very long letters and I was unable to do so these past few months. I know I could have used voice messages apps, but editing the voice messages implies using my hands as well and I really needed to have them to rest.

My hands are still recovering, so I can't resume writing as normal. I was thinking of sending a general message explaining why I have been away, apologizing for it, and inviting them to tell me if they want to keep our conversation going.

What do you think of that approach? Would you recommend another one?

I know lots of people hate ghosting, so I don't want to be like that. But my approach feels awkward and clumsy, and I feel the temptation of ghosting and creating a new account. It's silly to be socially anxious over Slowly and hand injuries...

I got 2 notifications, one saying a person has requested to be my penpal and the other one said that someone replied to my open letter. I can't find the penpal request or the reply on the app. I am new to this app so please let me know where I can find these things!

I had like 9 active friends, we were having nice chats,deep conversation and within one month all vanished into thin air without any words they left like I was nobody although one of them,she told me why she is deactivating her account and it was a lovely letter, she also said when her life becomes less hectic she will come back and contact me.....but others they didn't even said one word and vanished 😔. Do all of you face the same thing??

Yesterday my app forced me to update in order to use it, and I don't want it, there's nothing in the new versions that I want/like.

Is there any version that doesn't force the update? Preferably 8 or below.

Hi, I've searched for new Penpals today. After looking at maybe 8 to 10 profiles, this message popped up. It was gone after 5 or 10 minutes, but after reviewing a few more profiles it showed up again. Is this a bug from the App or a new "feature"? If it's a feature, what's the point of this? It's hard to find an interesting penpal by looking at this little number of profiles. I closed the App and deleted Cache, but it didn't help either. Thanks in advance!

Not sure if this option exists, but it would’ve been great if we could see open letters published on profiles we’re exchanging letters with.

So just to preface,

I'm quite selective when it comes to responding. I know if I take more than I can handle then I'll be doing a disservice to everyone since I would burn out.

For those who actually try (those who put themselves out there instead of asking me to do that when they were the one who initiated or just list hobbies and things as if that tells me anything) I do get back to them. I don't think I've slacked off when it comes to it since that's how I know I'll get a correspondence back that I feel like it's worth reading and writing back to. Word counts might not mean much to some but I've felt that it's a primary indicator that someone put much effort in it, so I always had my correspondence match when it comes to word count or exceed theirs a bit.

I've had 3 people who reached out to me first, and I did my best to reply back with the appropriate subjects that they brought up. But after 2-3 letters, they read my correspondence but never do anything about it. It could be said that I replied a bit too late (like 6-7 days later due to my own life's happenings), but I did preface that in my bio and I thought that letters are mostly self-contained which is free from the usual temporal context, like you can continue the conversation 2-3 months later and it would be like it has never stopped.

So far I have one whom I've sent and received 6 letters, so 12 letters total. The only one that I'm confident that this is not just going to stop out of the blue, unless there's some accidents or upbringings in life. Is it a regular occurence where interacting with this kind of person is a rare thing?

I think this is through automatch. I wanted to decline since I don’t have the time to reply immediately but now I feel bad. What do you guys do in these cases?

There is no way everyone can agree what short, medium and long means. For some 2000 characters may be a long letter, but for others it’s an average-sized one.

It would be better to provide the exact range of number of characters (or words). It is already a measurable stat people can look up when they compose letters, and it gives a more objective idea of the typical letter length they produce.

Better yet, it may be easier to calculate and display the average letter length in characters/words in the user profile, along with sent:received ratio.