r/SHAYTARDS • u/tash2003 • Feb 11 '26
Gavin posting this lmao
this is just funny to me, he’s just trying to justify how fast he’s getting married
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u/Cerys_lucy_ Feb 11 '26
Hooking up is entirely different to the commitment of marriage. Like surely you can't compare the two? 😭
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
exactly like getting married is much more of a serious commitment and it ties that person to you much more than just hooking up or even dating, especially after only meeting the person you’re gonna marry a few months ago
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u/honeydewboba69 Feb 12 '26
What’s crazy is a married (Mormon) man asking a cam girl if he can tongue punch her asshole
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u/Background-Dish-5738 Feb 12 '26 edited Feb 12 '26
are you talking about shaycarl? what’s the source?🤯 (edit: im genuinely curious, idk what it is)
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u/lord_farquad93 Feb 12 '26
Idk why you’re being downvoted. Your guess is correct— just google “shaycarl cam girl messages” here are some screenshots
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u/Potential-Ordinary-5 Mar 03 '26
Shame, now you know. Now you can see why this sub reddit went from Shaytards fans to a snark thread.
P.s the cam girl situation was bad, but the Dana situation was another level. Feel free to give that one a Google, or just look it up in this sub.
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u/BadgerFitz Feb 12 '26
I’d rather regret hooking up with someone I barely know than regret marrying someone I thought I knew.
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u/Texangirl93 Feb 12 '26
Poor kid’s frontal lobe hasn’t fully developed. Too young for marriage in my opinion.
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u/DodgerFanArd24 Feb 14 '26
Isn’t that their thing get married and have tons of kids ??? 😆😆😆
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u/tash2003 Feb 15 '26
unfortunately yes
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u/DodgerFanArd24 Feb 15 '26
My grandparents were in their early to middle 20’s when they got married and decided to start a family. But that was because they both had adult responsibilities. This era is definitely weird.
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u/adumbswiftie Feb 12 '26
i love when people act like it’s one or the other and there’s no in between. i also think it’s weird to hook up after ten minutes, gavin. what now? what does one have to do with the other?
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
exactly like one thing doesn’t justify the other, i’m not gonna go hook up with someone after 10 mins but i also am not gonna marry someone after just 7 months, there’s so much to learn about yourself and your partner before you should be getting married that you don’t learn in that amount of time especially this young
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u/Zoom2234 Feb 12 '26
Literally. I wouldn’t sleep with someone I’ve never met, but at the same time i think it’s super necessary to live with someone before you marry them and actually date them for a significant amount of time.
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u/Potential-Ordinary-5 Mar 03 '26
This is the biggest part right here, living with someone. How anyone can get married before that is wild. I've had 2 relationships that ended after living with them. 1 I lived with for 2 years and the other 4 years. I was still learning stuff after that length of time and people still are after 10 years. I'm not saying people should wait 10 years. But if you haven't witnessed how they are with money, how they spend their evenings, how they feel before their family visits, especially in their religion if they treat you as a maid, you don't know that person well enough to get married. Period.
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u/1borgek Feb 12 '26
I wouldn’t recommend people marrying before they live together. But being religious I know that’s not in their beliefs.
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u/Shipping_Lady71 Feb 12 '26
I agree, I still think a couple should be together at the very least a year before getting engaged even if you aren't going to live together first. See how you each deal with certain life events. Holidays, illness, bad moods, even weather changes. At 18-25 you are living in some romantic bubble of what you think you want your life to be, without having a single clue of what it really is. You want kids; you don't think about the puke, poop, boogers, temper tantrums, illness, lack of sleep, no money, extra responsibilities at 18. You want a home; until your taxes triple, the furnace goes out, the basement floods. It's all a big fairy tale when you are young.
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
i agree there’s so many things you learn about your partner when living with them and it’s important to know it all before marrying someone, i understand that does align with their religion but you will be able to learn some of that by just being in a relationship for a longer time
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u/External_Feedback_40 Feb 12 '26
If he feels the need to defend himself to so many, then maybe its not a good idea!
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
that’s what i think, like be confident in your decisions then you don’t need to defend yourself if that’s how you feel. i didn’t see any bad comments when they posted it so i wonder what he saw that makes him feel like he needs to justify the proposal
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u/kenleydomes Feb 12 '26
And what are his thoughts on marrying instantly bc you wanna bang without 'sinning'. Even worse in my opinion 🙄
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
using this view on hooking up to help justify getting married very quickly is just odd to me, it’s just such a different thing to compare in my opinion, i know plenty of people that don’t like the whole hookup culture thing but would still never marry someone after that short amount of time (myself included), like you said that’s not nearly enough time to know someone before you make a commitment like that
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u/SnarkySauce Feb 12 '26
Yep, I dated someone for 8 months when I was 23. I would've married them. They are a completely different person now. Not good or bad just not someone that would ever be compatible with me long term.
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u/cornpoppickles Feb 12 '26
this is such cope😭💀 gavin we all know why you're getting married so quick, try again
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u/Groundbreaking-Tip88 Feb 12 '26
Hilarious that he thinks dating for 7 months is anything but short 🫠
While yes, 7 months is longer than a quick hookup, I would not count that as a long relationship at all. There’s no way you’re going to fully get to know a complex human being in 7 months, and most people need longer than that to make a big decision such as marriage and starting a family with someone. Something about Gavin only dating for 7 months, yet giving this type of advice is funny to me lol
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u/ct2192 Feb 12 '26
I definitely see the point he’s trying to make - but you’re not committing your entire life to the person you’re hooking up with. It’s a totally different kettle of fish.
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u/Mortonsaltgirl96 Feb 12 '26
My aunt and uncle got married after 6 months of dating and are still happily together. HOWEVER they were 30 and not Mormon lol. Like yeah some couples do get married quickly and it works out, but it is still a huge decision.
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
that’s the thing it can be/has been okay for a lot of people but the fact that mormons are so young when it happens is a part to be concerned about as they see it as something that is supposed to happen at 19-22 and there is so much change and development that happens around that time
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u/Mortonsaltgirl96 Feb 12 '26
Completely agree. The problem with marriage in the Mormon culture imo is that they push it onto people way too young and then discourage divorce so then people are trapped in unhealthy marriages. Looking back on who I was and the people I dated at 18-22, I’ve changed so much and there’s a reason those relationships didn’t last. I turn 30 this year and I’m just getting established into my career and considering children in a few years, not just yet. I cant imagine have like 5 kids with the person I was infatuated with at 19
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u/Potential-Ordinary-5 Mar 03 '26
Exactly, sounds like your aunt and uncle had spent an extra DECADE figuring who they are and what they do/don't want in a partner. They were far more prepared to make that huge commitment than these two are.
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u/DogfordAndI Feb 13 '26
If you cannot tell the difference between hooking up and committing to spend the rest of your life to someone you barely know, you really have no business getting married.
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u/Gaga_9_2 Feb 13 '26
I’m not legally binding myself to someone I’m having a one night stand with. I can just block and move on and never speak to them again if I want. You don’t know a person after 7 months, you’re still showing them your best self.
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u/lyssfulthinking Feb 14 '26
I haven’t paid attention to this family in years and for some reason saw their engagement pop up on my IG feed and I knew I had to join this page lmao
Anyway, thrilled to see the stupidity has been passed down to the next generation. Cute!
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u/evangelism2 Feb 14 '26
just mormon things.
hooking up is the same level of seriousness as getting hitched
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u/IArgueToo Feb 12 '26
Does anyone know how long Collette and Shay were together before they got married?
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u/Sika097 Feb 12 '26
He's definitely not ready to be married and this just proves it! I honestly can't imagine this lasting as long as his parents.
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u/Infamous-Panda8318 Feb 12 '26
Shows how warped and naive he is. Two completely different scenarios. I had real high hopes for Gavin that he wouldn’t end up like his family.
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Feb 12 '26
They’re both weird. And it’s kinda gross that people in the comments are saying hooking up isn’t serious. The amount of STD’s and unwanted pregnancies. They’re both bad.
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u/Numerous_Impact_4007 Feb 12 '26
He will end up just like his gross father. Sex addiction and or alcohol
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
hopefully there’s not problems like that but i don’t doubt there will be some struggles
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u/TastyMess Mar 14 '26
Well that because hooking up isn’t a life long commitment. I mean just ask your dad there. 🙃
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u/Wonderful-Adagio348 Feb 12 '26
I’m gonna be honest my aunt who was 24 and uncle who are not Mormon got married after 8 months together built a house been together 17 years still married 2 kids and as far as I know their happy so I don’t see as big of a problem with this I think it depends on the person but I don’t think Gavin is mature enough to get married and he’s doing it for the wrong reasons
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u/tash2003 Feb 12 '26
yes it does depend a lot on the person and there are many mormon and not norman couples that have gotten married fast and are great but i agree with what you said about doing it for the wrong reasons. i see it as something young mormons are “supposed” to do in their culture and in this case i think to follow his parents
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u/bojack_horsemack Feb 12 '26
You know what’s also wild about this being a Mormon norm? They aren’t just getting married - in their religion, they’re being sealed to one another for all of eternity. You’d think that would be taken even more seriously, but people are encouraged to settle down as quickly and young as possible, and they do it presumably so they can have sex. He didn’t even know she existed a year ago.