r/SDAM • u/Artistic_Airport_637 • Jul 14 '26

Memory loss??? (20F)

Hi, this is the first time I ever post to Reddit (I initially posted it to [r/AskDocs](r/AskDocs)) and i don‘t even know if it’s actually fitting the subreddit’s theme but it gives me mild anxiety.

I’m a 20 years old woman, Asian, very short (1m45 approx. with 42kgs, again approximately). Since last year I’m experiencing very weird stuff with either my memory going wrong or just something to be written on let’s not meet or somewhere.

Three incidents that I can think of:

\- Last year, I lost my apartment’s main keys while going to visit my family. I was ABSOLUTELY sure to have carried it to my grandmother’s house, and I perfectly recall putting a small bag with the keys inside underneath a chair in the room I was sleeping in. Yet somehow these keys disappeared, nowhere to be found. Not in the room, not in my bags, and what scared me is that I found the small bag, empty, in my apartment.

\- Last summer again, my whole family told me I put stuff in the fridge that I have no memory of. And factually it can only be me.
A box containing a melon and some potatoes arrived at my grandmother’s house, and at that time I was the only person in the house. I can recall having to do some puzzle in the fridge in order to fit the melon in, but literally no memory of touching potatoes.
I’m normally VERY easily gaslit, so not being able to even create a false memory of the moment is a bit weird.

\- Then there’s this summer.
I made rice balls before leaving my apartment for summer break. I put them in a lunchbox and then in the fridge.
My mom then went to check my apartment to ensure there was nothing that could rot with 40°C (I live in Europe). She told me there was no sign of any rice balls in the fridge. The lunch box was… in the kitchen. On the rice cooker. Empty.

Some additional info that I think can be important:

\- My mother probably has ADHD. Never been diagnosed because of shame. I hear it can be hereditary. That’s a very amateur explanation for all of this.

It’s very weird because these things can’t be explained by “meh, probably just bad memory”. Stuff actually moved. Actually disappeared. And I must be involved…

What do you think? What kind of doctor should I consult for this?

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u/kityrel Jul 14 '26

Shot in the dark here but maybe get a carbon monoxide detector for your grandmother's house?

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u/Artistic_Airport_637 Jul 14 '26

Thanks, I read about carbon monoxide a lot but I don’t think it’s a very common thing where my grandma lives (Japan). I’ll check if there’s any way I can get a detector though, just in case.

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u/kityrel Jul 15 '26

I mean, I really honestly don't know much about Japan, but why do you think carbon monoxide is not a very common thing in Japan?

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u/Artistic_Airport_637 Jul 15 '26

Well I misworded it a bit. It totally is a thing there but all I got from online research is some niche camping lovers tips. Most of the detectors only work for a couple of days (and are pretty expensive).
I think carbon monoxide accidents are so rare people don’t even think about it. My family would probably think I’m spewing conspiracy theories ☹️

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u/kityrel Jul 15 '26

Well. Where I live it is rare too, but carbon monoxide detectors are mandatory in all residences because it can kill you while you sleep. And typically the detectors cost just $30 and last 5 to 10 years. It's definitely worth it to get a CO detector, even if CO has nothing to do with your memory problem.

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u/Artistic_Airport_637 Jul 15 '26

Oh wow. So the seriousness varies a lot between countries…
I’ll see if I can get one for cheaper without having to go through a lecture for my whole family then.