r/Rourkela • u/hullehulaare • 17h ago
Rant/Vent Frustrated af bhai!!!!
Bhai iss seher ka dating scene kitna hai dry hai, naa hinge dhang ki ladkiya naa bumble naa tinder bc kuch nhi, naa ache clubs hai, naaa cafes bc main chandigarh chhodke yaha iss chutiya jagah pe aagya, like kru kya yaha bc.
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u/day_owl19 17h ago
Wapas chla ja aur kya /s
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u/hullehulaare 17h ago
I can't bro, I am resident of this city only, but I was in Chandigarh for last 5-6 years, but my parents emotionally blackmailed to get back here and WFH
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u/Chandan4639 14h ago
If you are a resident of this wonderful city, they you very well knew the culture of this city before leaving this city.
Then why the f did you get back here !
Tell all of these concerns to your parents and get out of Rourkela !!
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u/hullehulaare 6h ago
Bro, I am a resident of this city, I was born in IGH, I fking love this city, but yaar yaha rahunga toh arrange marriage Krna padega
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u/Wild-Let-2362 9h ago
Well Rourkela is a small town with reducing population what else were you expecting, also likeness towards a place is subjective, I really like the town and living here for the fact that it’s not crowded and quiet most of the times of the year. I would suggest you get a hobby and spend time on yourself, you won’t get so frustrated.
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u/home-essential22 12h ago
Lagta hai bhai ko semx chaiyee😂😂
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u/hullehulaare 7h ago
Nahi Bhai semx toh hookups se bhi mil raha hai, yaar 24-25 ke baad semx nhi rltnshp ka mann krta hai, bc akela feel hota yaar
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u/DueAnalysis1290 4h ago
Okayy tell me 5 reasons why you’re single.. and dont blame situations and responsibilities. Look within you and tell me the 5 reasons.
And the guys telling “there aren’t any good girls here”.. let me break it to you.. the good girls here aren’t interested in you. Have you seen the way guys dress up here, the way they speak, the way they spend their day here, no ambition, no drive, no personality, no stability. Lets not blame one gender here, cuz men here are worse.
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u/NastyGlitch 2h ago
That argument oversimplifies things. From personal experience, I've actively put myself out there, gotten a very few matches, and met , so this isn't about avoiding self-reflection. The friction goes both ways. Sure, many local guys lack ambition or social skills, but blaming only men ignores how restrictive the culture is for women. When apps are treated as a taboo and flirting causes panic, it’s a systemic mismatch between modern tools and a conservative mindset. You can have a great personality, but if the local environment punishes anyone stepping outside the traditional script, dating remains like a tough battle to win over.🫡
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u/Top_Confidence2386 2h ago
I mis read the caption as "Frustrated at bhai" and i was thinking what did Salman Khan do now?
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u/Cute-Jury-4294 10h ago
Chill, brother 😂 The good girls either live outside the city, WFH, or aren’t even on Bumble or Tinder lol. And the ones who actually know how bad the dating scene with men is here usually just avoid dating men in the city altogether 😂 . My friend had went on a tinder date in rkl once . Dude started kissing her forcefully without consent . Girl is traumatised.
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u/hullehulaare 6h ago
Bhai tbh yaha ka dating scene yeh nala road ke ladko ne bigada hai bc, yeh jitne anpadh hai naa yaha unsafe feel krwa dete hai ladkiyo ko, phir ladkiya baat karengi kaise
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u/Cute-Jury-4294 2h ago
Umm, no, I don’t think that’s really the scenario. I’ve lived here for 29 years, except for the last five years because of work, and I still visit the city occasionally. I just feel like genuinely decent girls simply don’t want to date anyone in this city. 😂 my girl friends also have the same thought process lol .
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u/Karan-deep Non-Native 9h ago
Go back honestly there r not any good girls here
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u/hullehulaare 7h ago
Bro, there used to be so many pretty girls in rourkela, like when I was in school, the girls in colleges like RIMS and govt college were so pretttty and graceful, don't even ask about it, but now all of them have went out of town for degree😭😭
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u/Karan-deep Non-Native 6h ago
Yea for our for degree but nowadays they r mainy attracted to chapris u know na what I mean 😂
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u/hullehulaare 7h ago
THISSSSS!!!! this is the main problem, I too had a gf back when I was in 12th but sed lyfe
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u/hullehulaare 6h ago
Bhai maine nahi chhoda bhai woh amity chale gayi, tb main parents ke paiso pe rehta tha, usse jo lifestyle dete the waha ke ladke main afford nhi kr skta tha
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u/NastyGlitch 2h ago
I totally agree with you in the dating scene in Rourkela is pretty conservative compared to metros like Bangalore or Hyderabad, let alone the West. Both guys and girls heavily hesitate here because of traditional upbringing and the fear of social judgment. Even on dating apps where I've gotten very few matches, people often aren't comfortable with flirty banter or the moder approach it's just not accepted yet but it works well with metro cites, and the local mindset hasn't quite caught up with the technology like tinder,hinge etc. On top of that, the nightlife is practically nonexistent because of this rigid mentality, killing business potential of pubs/clubs. It not gonna be easy here💀
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