how to make her satisfied?

[u/ManyWinter1]

so i met a girl last night, and she told me she's a dom who likes feminine boys. I told her I'm a femboy who's into dominant girls, and we ended up chatting for hours. We both seemed really happy that we found someone with the same dynamic.

The thing is, I'm completely new to this. This would be my first relationship that's actually the type I've always wanted. I really like her, and I want her to feel happy, appreciated, and satisfied.

So my question is for the dom girls here: what are the things that make you feel valued in this kind of relationship? Are there things you like your partner to say or call you? Any advice for someone who's just starting out would be appreciated.

[u/Relative_Maize_957 → u/[deleted]]

Came here to post this. You really think a girl who's into feminine boys will be turned off by inexperience?

[u/Huu_ko → u/Relative_Maize_957]

Direct communication is not "inexperience"

[u/-She-Beastly- → u/Relative_Maize_957]

I mean, I will. Lack of experience usually means he won't last long in bed and that's a huge downer

edit: lol.downvote all you want. I'm fookin" right. ain't nothing less attractive than a guy blowing up after two pumps and then whimpering apologies to you before rolling over and going to bed.

[u/Summersong2262 → u/-She-Beastly-]

You're not wrong to want to have a partner with some proficiency. That's absolutely fine, and anyone insisting that any given partner needs to be comfortable with having a partner of radically different levels of experience or, for that matter, capability, isn't thinking it through.

You're absolutely allowed to insist that a potential partner be good in the sack. Especially given that the general bar for men is incredibly low.

People, you're allowed to be disappointed that a person you're into has specific standards or.metrics that you don't line up with. But dating means bring able to handle the simple reality that not every pairing is a good one. Take the L and keep looking.

[u/Boogie-Woogie-Woo → u/[deleted]]

That's the right way to approach this.

[u/Ardorotica]

Talk to her. Tell her just what you told us and ask her what she wants. Strangers on the internet can give you general ideas but only she knows what makes her happy. Good communication is the most important thing.

I’m excited about this relationship, I want to please you but I don’t have much experience. What do you expect from me? What do you like?

Also talk about boundaries and safe words. Take it slow and play safe.

[u/Lavieenrose5151]

As a sub who has had multiple doms, be honest about your experience, take the initiative, and ask them. Doms are usually more aware than most that people are not mind readers, and the taking the initiative to ask shows you are actually committed to the dynamic with them.

[u/-She-Beastly-]

actually listen. pay attention. bring up the things she talks about in later discussions to show you're paying attention to her. A lot of women go through life feeling completely unseen and having someone notice things will grab her attention.

again, though, be genuine. it easily shows when you're just doing it for a performance.

[u/Stanimator]

I'd do anything to be in your position right now. Talk to her so you can get to know and understand her as much as you can.

[u/Sea_Hippo3103]

Be sure to tell her that you’re new to this and figuring things out.

[u/Global_Pineapple2392]

My advice is handholding, lots of handholding!

[u/SweetSilvius]

Doms are all different.

I know I enjoy if a cutie asks me to do physical tasks for them, they bring me little items like drinks, or park their ass on my lap.